Mr and Mrs Therapy | EMDR, Trauma, Complex PTSD, Communication, Anxiety, Depression, Marriage, Focus on the Family
***TOP 1.5% PODCAST*** Is your trauma consuming you? Are you tired of constantly having anxiety or depression? Are you struggling to stop negative self talk? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? Are you fighting about the same things over and over again in your relationship? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? In this podcast, you will find tools and resources to help you better understand yourself and your relationships. You’ll learn how to manage or even eliminate the constant anxiety, negative self talk, and feelings of overwhelm that you’ve been experiencing. Our mission is to equip you to be healthy mentally and relationally and to bring healing to past trauma that might be still affecting you today. If you’re ready to say yes to being the best version of yourself, have fulfilling and healthy relationships, and have a better life, - then you are in the right place! Hey, we’re Tim and Ruth! We’re licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts with over 30 years of combined experience. We’ve seen time and time again how people have tried to will themselves to be happy, muscle through it, and have ended up even worse off than when they began. We’ve noticed that people have experienced deep pain, whether it’s others who have hurt them or situations and the world just beating them down, and often they have turned that into an internal dialogue where they are mean...like really cruel in how they talk to themselves. They have anxiety, feel depressed and overwhelmed, all the while their self talk is telling them ”I’m not good enough, I’m a failure, I’m worthless, I’m not loveable, I cannot trust anyone, I am powerless, I’m not in control.” How emotionally exhausting! We’ve realized that people want to get out of that place, they just don’t know how. They feel lost, alone, and without hope. Mental health & recurring toxic relationships can feel like an uphill battle, but you are not alone in this, that’s where we come in! We offer specific steps, practical tools, strategies, and insights that will help you to overcome these ongoing battles and help you win the war! There is hope, and there certainly is healing! We can’t wait to share it with you! If you are ready to finally find ways to overcome your anxiety, stop your negative self talk, stop feeling like a burden, break free from co-dependency and toxic relationships, and stop letting your past run the show... and if you’re looking for changes that can transform your life, like improved mood, increased confidence, healthier relationships, and healing from the past that has kept you stuck for too long - this podcast is for you! Bring your drama and your trauma and lets get healing! We’d love to connect with you over in our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mrandmrstherapypodcast/
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Wednesday Jul 17, 2024
Wednesday Jul 17, 2024
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Welcome to the Mrs. Therapy podcast! In this episode, we continue our series on negative beliefs and cognitions, particularly how they relate to EMDR therapy. If you're new here, EMDR is a highly effective trauma treatment that helps reprogram the brain to let go of negative beliefs. We're diving deeper into these beliefs, exploring their origins and impacts on our current lives.
In the last episode, we discussed beliefs such as "I don't deserve love" and "I'm worthless." Today, we examine "I am not good enough," tracing its roots to high parental expectations and societal pressures. We also explore how it manifests as perfectionism and procrastination, affecting various aspects of life including work and relationships.
Next, we tackle the belief "I deserve only bad things," often stemming from abusive relationships or harsh parenting. This belief can lead to learned helplessness and self-sabotaging behaviors, making it difficult to accept positive experiences.
We also discuss "I am permanently damaged," a belief arising from traumatic events or long-term mental health struggles. This can result in hopelessness and a reluctance to seek help, believing that recovery is impossible.
Finally, we explore "I am ugly or my body is hateful," frequently rooted in body shaming or physical trauma. This belief can lead to cosmetic surgery addiction, eating disorders, or social withdrawal.
Join us as we delve into these beliefs, offering examples and insights to help you identify and challenge them in your own life. Stay tuned for more episodes where we'll cover additional categories of negative beliefs, including feelings of safety, control, and choice. Have a great day and remember, your mind is a powerful thing.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Monday Jul 15, 2024
Monday Jul 15, 2024
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Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. Join your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts, as they share their insights and strategies to help you heal from the past and build meaningful connections.
In today's episode, we begin a new series on negative cognitive cognitions—your negative beliefs often rooted in trauma. We'll explore different categories of negative beliefs, such as feelings of responsibility, safety and vulnerability, and control and choice. Learn how these beliefs shape your daily life and discover practical ways to address and overcome them.
If you resonate with any of these negative beliefs, take some time to reflect and identify the experiences that contributed to them. Understanding these beliefs is crucial for healing and moving forward. Join us as we delve into the first group of negative beliefs, starting with "I don't deserve love" and "I am a bad person," and learn how to transform these limiting thoughts into opportunities for growth and healing.
Remember, your mind is a powerful thing. Tune in to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy and start your journey towards healing today.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Wednesday Jul 10, 2024
Wednesday Jul 10, 2024
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Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. We're your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts. Join us as we unravel the layers of personal growth, healing from trauma, and building healthy relationships through engaging conversations, expert insights, and practical strategies.
In today's episode, we continue our deep dive into vulnerability. If you haven't already listened to the first episode on this topic, we recommend you go back and listen to that before jumping into today's discussion. We explore the tension between our deepest desires for genuine connections and our strongest desires for safety and control. Through personal stories and expert advice, we highlight the importance of being true to yourself and the benefits of risking vulnerability for deeper, more meaningful relationships.
We discuss how vulnerability shows up in everyday life—from parenting and workplace dynamics to personal development and intimate relationships. Learn how small acts of openness can lead to significant personal growth and stronger bonds with those around you. As you go about your week, challenge yourself to embrace vulnerability and experience the transformative power it can bring to your life.
Thank you for joining us on Mr. and Mrs. Therapy. Remember, your mind is a powerful thing. If you found today's episode helpful, please share it with a friend and leave us a review on Apple Podcast. If you have any questions or topics you'd like us to discuss in future episodes, visit our Facebook group. Always remember, there is hope and there is help available.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Monday Jul 08, 2024
Monday Jul 08, 2024
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In this episode, we delve into the idea of vulnerability—why it can be scary to engage in and why it's so beneficial. We discuss common perceptions of vulnerability, the fears associated with it, and how to weigh the potential risks and rewards. Vulnerability isn't just about sharing deep secrets; it's about openness and the possibility of building genuine connections. Join us as we explore how vulnerability can lead to deeper, more meaningful relationships and how to navigate the delicate balance of trust and openness.
If you're struggling with vulnerability and would like to unlock your ability to truly connect with others, we offer consultations to help you on your journey. So sit back, get comfortable, and let's start healing.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Tuesday Jul 02, 2024
Tuesday Jul 02, 2024
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In this episode Tim and Ruth delve into the detrimental effects of comparison on children and how parents can foster a healthier environment for personal growth.
Tim and Ruth discuss the concept of "tabula rasa" and the importance of recognizing and nurturing each child's unique traits and interests. They provide insights on how to avoid harmful comparisons, both within the family and externally, and emphasize the significance of intrinsic motivation over extrinsic rewards.
Through engaging anecdotes and expert advice, the Olson's offer practical strategies for parents to encourage their children to do their best without the pressure of comparison. This episode is a guide to helping your children develop a strong sense of self-worth and resilience, equipping them to navigate life's challenges with confidence.
Thursday Jun 27, 2024
Thursday Jun 27, 2024
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Welcome back to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy! Today, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists, delve into the crucial topic of the messages we send our children about health and appearance. Building on their previous discussion, they emphasize the importance of prioritizing health over appearance, especially in a world heavily influenced by social media and societal standards.
In this episode, Tim and Ruth share practical strategies for fostering a health-focused mindset in children, highlighting the significance of modeling healthy behaviors and communication. They also discuss the potential long-term impacts of unintentional comments and actions on children's self-perception and mental health.
Join Tim and Ruth as they offer valuable insights and personal anecdotes, encouraging parents to create a supportive and health-conscious environment for their families. Whether you're looking to heal from past trauma or seeking to understand your relationships better, this episode is packed with wisdom and actionable advice.
Don't miss out on this engaging conversation that aims to transform adversity into triumph and promote lasting well-being for you and your loved ones.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Tuesday Jun 25, 2024
Tuesday Jun 25, 2024
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Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy! In this episode, hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists, delve into the crucial topic of the themes and messages we send to our kids. They discuss the importance of not parenting out of fear but rather fostering a level of awareness and intentionality in our actions and words.
The Olsons emphasize how recurring themes, whether positive or negative, shape our children's belief systems and understanding. They highlight the significance of modeling values such as love, respect, and sportsmanship, while also ensuring that excellence is not over-prioritized to the detriment of a child's sense of being loved unconditionally.
Through engaging examples, including experiences from their own children's swimming meets, Tim and Ruth illustrate how parents can balance encouragement with the expression of unconditional love. They also explore how to handle correction and praise, ensuring children feel supported and motivated rather than pressured.
Join Tim and Ruth as they provide practical strategies for sending the right messages to our kids, promoting healthier relationships and personal growth. Whether you're a parent seeking to better understand the impact of your actions or looking for ways to instill positive values in your children, this episode offers valuable insights and advice.
Remember, your mind is a powerful thing. Tune in to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy and let's start healing together!
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Wednesday Jun 19, 2024
Wednesday Jun 19, 2024
Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. In this episode, hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts, delve into mental health disorders caused by trauma.
Continuing their series, they explore borderline personality disorder (BPD), substance use disorders, and eating disorders. The Olsons explain the symptoms, underlying trauma, and the complex interplay of these conditions. They also emphasize the importance of addressing both the trauma and the symptoms concurrently for effective healing.
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Monday Jun 17, 2024
Monday Jun 17, 2024
In this episode, we delve into the impact of trauma on mental health. We explore how severe, repetitive trauma, especially during key developmental periods, can lead to various psychological conditions or mental health disorders. We'll introduce nine mental health disorders influenced by trauma, starting with PTSD and acute stress disorder, and discuss how treating the root cause of trauma can lead to full healing rather than just addressing symptoms.
Join us as we discuss PTSD, acute stress disorder, depression, anxiety disorders, and dissociative disorders. Learn about the symptoms, impacts, and the importance of early intervention and appropriate treatment. Discover how understanding and addressing trauma can lead to more effective and lasting mental health outcomes.
If you or someone you know is struggling with trauma-related mental health issues, this episode provides valuable insights and hope for healing. Tune in to continue the journey towards better mental health and stronger relationships.
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Thursday Jun 13, 2024
Thursday Jun 13, 2024
Segment 1: Understanding the Brain's Response to Trauma
Brain Anatomy and Trauma: We begin by identifying the key areas of the brain involved in the trauma response—namely, the amygdala, hippocampus, and prefrontal cortex. Discover how these structures collaborate to process emotions, store memories, and make decisions, and why their function is critical in the context of trauma.
Neurological Responses: Learn about the immediate reactions of the brain to traumatic events, including the fight, flight, or freeze responses initiated by the amygdala. We will also discuss the role of neurotransmitters and hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline, which flood the body during stressful situations, preparing it to face perceived threats.
Segment 2: Long-Term Neurological Effects of Trauma
Structural Changes: Delve into the long-term effects of trauma on the brain, focusing on how prolonged exposure to stress hormones can lead to significant changes, such as the shrinking of the hippocampus and the hyperactivity of the amygdala. Understand how these structural alterations can disrupt normal brain function, affecting memory and emotional regulation.
Functional Implications: Explore how the physical changes in brain structures manifest in daily life, including challenges with emotional management, persistent anxiety, and memory issues. We'll also introduce the concept of neural plasticity, which explains the brain's ability to adapt and reshape itself in response to traumatic experiences, both positively and negatively.
Segment 3: The Impact on Mental Health
Link to Mental Health Disorders: Examine how the changes brought on by trauma are linked to specific mental health conditions, such as PTSD, anxiety disorders, and depression. Discuss the symptoms and manifestations of these disorders in the context of the neurological impacts described, providing a clearer picture of how trauma embeds itself within the psyche.
Join us in this enlightening exploration as we unravel the complexities of the brain under trauma and share hopeful insights into the paths towards healing. Whether you're a mental health professional, someone affected by trauma, or simply interested in the power of the human brain, this episode promises to enrich your understanding and offer valuable strategies for recovery and resilience.
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