Mr and Mrs Therapy | EMDR Therapy, Trauma, PTSD, Healing Trauma, Communication, Anxiety, Depression, Relationship
***TOP 1.5% PODCAST*** Is your trauma consuming you? Are you tired of constantly having anxiety or depression? Are you struggling to stop negative self talk? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? Are you fighting about the same things over and over again in your relationship? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? In this podcast, you will find tools and resources to help you better understand yourself and your relationships. You’ll learn how to manage or even eliminate the constant anxiety, negative self talk, and feelings of overwhelm that you’ve been experiencing. Our mission is to equip you to be healthy mentally and relationally and to bring healing to past trauma that might be still affecting you today. If you’re ready to say yes to being the best version of yourself, have fulfilling and healthy relationships, and have a better life, - then you are in the right place! Hey, we’re Tim and Ruth! We’re licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts with over 30 years of combined experience. We’ve seen time and time again how people have tried to will themselves to be happy, muscle through it, and have ended up even worse off than when they began. We’ve noticed that people have experienced deep pain, whether it’s others who have hurt them or situations and the world just beating them down, and often they have turned that into an internal dialogue where they are mean...like really cruel in how they talk to themselves. They have anxiety, feel depressed and overwhelmed, all the while their self talk is telling them ”I’m not good enough, I’m a failure, I’m worthless, I’m not loveable, I cannot trust anyone, I am powerless, I’m not in control.” How emotionally exhausting! We’ve realized that people want to get out of that place, they just don’t know how. They feel lost, alone, and without hope. Mental health & recurring toxic relationships can feel like an uphill battle, but you are not alone in this, that’s where we come in! We offer specific steps, practical tools, strategies, and insights that will help you to overcome these ongoing battles and help you win the war! There is hope, and there certainly is healing! We can’t wait to share it with you! If you are ready to finally find ways to overcome your anxiety, stop your negative self talk, stop feeling like a burden, break free from co-dependency and toxic relationships, and stop letting your past run the show... and if you’re looking for changes that can transform your life, like improved mood, increased confidence, healthier relationships, and healing from the past that has kept you stuck for too long - this podcast is for you! Bring your drama and your trauma and lets get healing! We’d love to connect with you over in our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mrandmrstherapypodcast/
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In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts explore the Pygmalion Effect—an intriguing phenomenon where higher expectations can enhance performance and growth. They discuss its origins, mechanics, and applicability in various contexts such as education, parenting, marriage, and self-improvement. Personal anecdotes and actionable strategies are shared to help listeners leverage this principle effectively in their own lives. Key emphasis is placed on balancing high expectations with grace and realistic perspectives to foster positive outcomes and self-fulfilling prophecies.
00:00 Introduction to the Pygmalion Effect
00:32 Origins and Mechanics of the Pygmalion Effect
01:25 Personal Story: Rising to Expectations
02:34 Parental Perspectives on Expectations
05:30 Balancing High Expectations with Grace
06:07 Applications in Daily Life
18:11 Strategies to Leverage the Pygmalion Effect
21:45 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs Therapy podcast, the hosts explore the concept of negativity bias, which is the tendency to focus more on negative experiences than positive ones. They discuss the evolutionary roots of this bias, its impact on our emotional well-being, and how it manifests in self-talk, relationships, and stress. The hosts then provide five practical tools to help shift towards a more balanced perspective: maintaining a three-to-one positivity ratio, implementing a bad day buffer ritual, practicing gratitude, asking reframing questions, and creating a positive data bank. These strategies aim to retrain the brain and improve overall mental health.
00:00 Introduction to Negativity Bias
01:02 The Science Behind Negativity Bias
02:22 Negativity Bias in Daily Life
04:53 Impact on Relationships
11:49 Tools to Combat Negativity Bias
17:12 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Thursday Jul 03, 2025
Thursday Jul 03, 2025
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In this episode of Mr. Services Therapy podcast, listeners are introduced to a simple yet effective parenting tool called the 'Three E's': empathize, expect, and empower. The hosts discuss how to transform daily power struggles with children into moments of connection by using empathy, setting clear expectations, and empowering children with choices. They provide detailed examples of how to implement each step in various scenarios, such as daily routines and homework time. Emphasizing empathy helps children feel seen, clear expectations eliminate confusion, and providing choices fosters autonomy and cooperation.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Monday Jun 30, 2025
Monday Jun 30, 2025
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In this episode, the we delve into the crucial topic of raising children who obey with a joyful heart, rather than begrudging compliance. They discuss the importance of attitude in fostering respect, self-control, and empathy in children. By addressing behaviors consistently and early, parents can minimize resentment and conflict, creating a harmonious home environment. The episode highlights the mantra 'right away, all the way, with a joyful heart,' and offers practical advice on encouraging compliance without arguments, completing tasks fully, and responding positively. The discussion also emphasizes the role of parents in modeling calm behavior and the significance of emotional contagion.
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Thursday Jun 26, 2025
Thursday Jun 26, 2025
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Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy. Today, Tim and Ruth Olson, experienced marriage and family therapists specializing in trauma, explore the concept of emotional flooding - a state of overwhelming emotion where the logical brain takes a backseat. This episode is designed to help listeners recognize, understand, and manage the intense emotional responses often referred to as the 'amygdala hijack.'
The Olsons dive deep into the science behind emotional flooding, explaining how past trauma can trigger the body's survival mode, characterized by the fight-flight-freeze-or-fawn response. They discuss how the brain, despite knowing situations logically, often misinterprets non-threatening scenarios as danger due to past experiences.
Listeners will learn practical strategies for calming the nervous system, such as grounding techniques, deep breathing, and using the 5-4-3-2-1 method to bring oneself back to the present. The Olsons also cover the importance of stepping away and managing emotional states before attempting to resolve conflicts.
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your own emotions or noticed how they impact your relationships, this episode is filled with valuable insights on transforming emotional flooding into an opportunity for growth and understanding. Join the journey to heal from the past, foster better communication, and develop deeper, more fulfilling relationships.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Tuesday Jun 24, 2025
Tuesday Jun 24, 2025
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In this eye-opening episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, licensed marriage and family therapists Tim and Ruth Olson delve into the often misunderstood topic of divorce. With years of experience in trauma and mental health, the Olsons provide a compassionate and insightful perspective on why divorce might not be the solution many believe it to be.
The episode begins with an important caveat: while the discussion centers on the complexities of divorce, it acknowledges that in cases of abuse or unsafe relationships, separation is crucial. However, for many experiencing conflict, disconnection, or betrayal, divorce may offer a false sense of resolution.
Listeners will gain insights into the unspoken challenges that come with divorce, such as emotional hangovers, continued conflicts, especially in co-parenting, and how unresolved personal wounds can carry into future relationships. The Olsons bring to light the hidden costs of divorce, touching upon its financial and emotional toll, and how societal and familial pressures can impact both individuals and children.
Throughout the episode, Tim and Ruth stress the importance of personal growth and healing from past traumas as a means to improve current and future relationships. They discuss practical strategies like individual and couples therapy, learning to articulate personal needs, rebuilding trust, and the role of spirituality in enhancing relational bonds.
The episode wraps up with a message of hope, encouraging listeners to seek clarity and understanding before making life-altering decisions. Whether you are currently in a challenging marriage, contemplating divorce, or healing post-divorce, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice to foster healthier relationships and personal well-being.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Thursday Jun 19, 2025
Thursday Jun 19, 2025
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In this episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, both licensed marriage and family therapists, delve into the pervasive relationship challenge of expectation without communication. Many partners, families, and friends expect their loved ones to understand what they need without expressing it, leading to frustration and resentment. This episode focuses on debunking the myth of mind reading and explores practical strategies for openly expressing one's needs in relationships.
Tim and Ruth discuss how expecting someone to intuitively know your needs can harm relationships, perpetuate misunderstandings, and breed emotional distance. They emphasize the importance of healthy communication, kindness, and clarity when expressing needs. Listeners will gain insight into the significance of speaking up and the potential consequences of staying silent.
Through real-life examples and expert advice, the episode provides essential tools to help listeners identify their needs, use "I" statements, and choose the right timing for conversations. By offering sentence starters and highlighting the importance of staying open to dialogue, the Olsons aim to guide individuals towards creating meaningful connections with their loved ones. Listen as they unpack practical tips on how partnering and teamwork can aid in building enduring love and fulfilling relationships.
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Tuesday Jun 17, 2025
Tuesday Jun 17, 2025
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Welcome back to another episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy with your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson. As licensed marriage and family therapists, we're here to empower you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. In this episode, we dive into the understated reality of healing - how it can often feel boring, predictable, or anticlimactic.
We challenge the cultural obsession with dramatic transformation stories and emphasize that real, lasting healing is a gradual, consistent process. It's not always about groundbreaking breakthroughs; sometimes, it's about choosing rest or saying no without guilt, actions that are powerful in their simplicity. We discuss the importance of these small, everyday victories.
Throughout the episode, we reframe what healing truly looks like, underscoring the power of mundane milestones like pausing before reacting, naming emotions, and setting silent boundaries. These acts are signs of profound progress and stabilization of your brain and nervous system.
Join us as we share practical tools to track and celebrate these 'boring' wins, from micro-win trackers to using visual reminders and anchor statements. We also address the importance of reframing expectations, acknowledging that healing is not linear and setbacks are part of the journey.
So whether you're stepping back from chaos or learning to value rest, remember that your journey towards a stable, grounded self is not boring—it's beautiful. Tune in to understand why these quiet triumphs are indeed the evidence of your healing power.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Thursday Jun 12, 2025
Thursday Jun 12, 2025
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Welcome to the latest episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where your hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists, delve into the complex emotion of anger. With their extensive experience in addressing trauma and mental health disorders, Tim and Ruth guide you through the multifaceted nature of anger, viewing it as not merely a negative emotion but a messenger with important insights.
Dive deep into understanding both the constructive and destructive aspects of anger, exploring its role as a secondary emotion that often masks more vulnerable feelings such as hurt, fear, and betrayal. Learn how mismanaged anger can lead to chronic stress, health issues, and damaged relationships, while also discovering how healthy anger can reinforce boundaries, underscore values, and empower personal action.
In this enlightening episode, Tim and Ruth offer practical strategies to channel anger positively. From the importance of pausing before reacting and utilizing 'I' statements to exploring the root causes of anger, listeners will gain invaluable tools for turning emotional reactions into thoughtful responses. Furthermore, discover how physical movement can serve as an outlet for anger, aiding in emotional regulation and preventing it from becoming a destructive force.
If you're on a journey to better emotional health or aiming to navigate your relationships more effectively, this episode offers a roadmap for managing anger in constructive ways. It’s a must-listen for anyone looking to transform emotional adversity into personal growth. Tune in, and let Tim and Ruth Olson guide you towards healthier expressions of your emotions and, ultimately, a more fulfilling life. Join the conversation and start your journey towards healing and self-discovery today.
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Monday Jun 09, 2025
Monday Jun 09, 2025
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another enlightening episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, experienced therapists and trauma experts, delve deep into the world of mental loops and their impact on mental health. In this episode, discover why you might feel trapped in these never-ending thought cycles and why they often emerge after experiencing trauma.
Tim and Ruth discuss the three primary causes of mental loops: unfinished emotional business, perfectionism, and trauma responses. Learn how these factors can keep your brain relentlessly cycling through thoughts and scenarios in search of closure or safety.
Furthermore, identify the difference between overthinking and anxiety and recognize how physical symptoms can accompany anxiety, making it harder to escape these thoughts.
This episode offers practical tools you can implement today to interrupt these mental loops. From labeling your thoughts to calming your body before your mind, and using grounding techniques, learn actionable strategies that aim to bring peace and calm into your life.
Whether you struggle with mental loops due to your past experiences or everyday stressors, this episode guides you on a path towards emotional freedom and healing. Join Tim and Ruth as they offer insight and wisdom to help you take control of your thoughts and find tranquility.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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