Mr and Mrs Therapy | EMDR, Trauma, Complex PTSD, Communication, Anxiety, Depression, Marriage, Focus on the Family
***TOP 1.5% PODCAST*** Is your trauma consuming you? Are you tired of constantly having anxiety or depression? Are you struggling to stop negative self talk? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? Are you fighting about the same things over and over again in your relationship? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? In this podcast, you will find tools and resources to help you better understand yourself and your relationships. You’ll learn how to manage or even eliminate the constant anxiety, negative self talk, and feelings of overwhelm that you’ve been experiencing. Our mission is to equip you to be healthy mentally and relationally and to bring healing to past trauma that might be still affecting you today. If you’re ready to say yes to being the best version of yourself, have fulfilling and healthy relationships, and have a better life, - then you are in the right place! Hey, we’re Tim and Ruth! We’re licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts with over 30 years of combined experience. We’ve seen time and time again how people have tried to will themselves to be happy, muscle through it, and have ended up even worse off than when they began. We’ve noticed that people have experienced deep pain, whether it’s others who have hurt them or situations and the world just beating them down, and often they have turned that into an internal dialogue where they are mean...like really cruel in how they talk to themselves. They have anxiety, feel depressed and overwhelmed, all the while their self talk is telling them ”I’m not good enough, I’m a failure, I’m worthless, I’m not loveable, I cannot trust anyone, I am powerless, I’m not in control.” How emotionally exhausting! We’ve realized that people want to get out of that place, they just don’t know how. They feel lost, alone, and without hope. Mental health & recurring toxic relationships can feel like an uphill battle, but you are not alone in this, that’s where we come in! We offer specific steps, practical tools, strategies, and insights that will help you to overcome these ongoing battles and help you win the war! There is hope, and there certainly is healing! We can’t wait to share it with you! If you are ready to finally find ways to overcome your anxiety, stop your negative self talk, stop feeling like a burden, break free from co-dependency and toxic relationships, and stop letting your past run the show... and if you’re looking for changes that can transform your life, like improved mood, increased confidence, healthier relationships, and healing from the past that has kept you stuck for too long - this podcast is for you! Bring your drama and your trauma and lets get healing! We’d love to connect with you over in our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mrandmrstherapypodcast/
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Thursday Aug 22, 2024
Thursday Aug 22, 2024
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Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. We're your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts. Together, we'll unravel the layers of personal growth, healing from trauma, and building healthy relationships.
In this episode, we continue our discussion from the last episode on why seeking absolute victory in arguments is detrimental to your marriage. We delve into the pitfalls and impacts of this approach on relationship dynamics. More importantly, we explore healthy alternatives to needing to win all the arguments.
First, we emphasize the importance of practicing active listening. Instead of engaging in combative listening, we discuss how to fully understand your partner's perspective through supportive listening techniques. We then move on to empathy and validation, explaining how these elements are crucial in fostering mutual understanding and reducing defensiveness.
Next, we highlight the need to look beyond surface arguments to identify underlying needs and fears driving the conflict. By understanding the heart behind the words, couples can navigate disagreements more effectively. Finally, we discuss the importance of seeking compromise and collaborative problem-solving, offering practical strategies for negotiating solutions that benefit both partners.
Join us as we provide insights and tools to help you transform conflict into a pathway for deeper connection and stronger relationships. Remember, in marriage, you're a team, and winning together is the ultimate goal.
Thank you for tuning in to this episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy. If you enjoyed today's episode, please share it with a friend and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts. For more discussions and questions, visit our Facebook group via the link in the description. Remember, there's always hope and help available.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Tuesday Aug 20, 2024
Tuesday Aug 20, 2024
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Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. We're your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts. Together, we'll unravel the layers of personal growth, healing from trauma, and building healthy relationships.
In this episode, we discuss a common issue couples face: the pursuit of absolute victory in conflicts. We'll explore the pitfalls of trying to win every argument, the underlying drives such as control and insecurity, and the impact on your relationship. Learn how seeking to dominate in disagreements can lead to emotional distancing, loss of intimacy, and long-term relational breakdowns.
Join us as we delve into the differences in decision-making and communication styles, and how they can cause friction. We'll also touch on the consequences of creating a culture of shame and the importance of resolving conflicts to avoid cumulative emotional damage.
Tune in to understand why absolute victory in arguments isn't beneficial and stay tuned for our next episode where we'll offer healthy alternatives and practical tools to foster better communication and understanding in your marriage.
Remember, your mind is a powerful thing. Thank you for joining us on Mr. and Mrs. Therapy. There's always hope, and there's always help.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Thursday Aug 15, 2024
Thursday Aug 15, 2024
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Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. We're your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts. We've spent our lives supporting people through the ups and downs, and we want to share these insights with you.
In this episode, we delve into the concept of false humility and its negative side effects. Discover the fine line between being humble and acknowledging your accomplishments without seeking external validation. Learn how to celebrate your successes genuinely and how this can positively impact your motivation and self-esteem.
We'll share personal anecdotes, including a memorable experience from our children's jujitsu match and a recent racquetball game. These stories highlight the importance of allowing yourself to feel excitement and pride in your achievements. We'll also discuss how your attitude towards others' successes can shape your own journey to excellence.
Join us as we explore practical strategies to embrace your strengths, foster a supportive community, and encourage others to shine brightly. If you're ready to transform adversity into triumph and build meaningful, fulfilling connections, you're in the right place. So sit back, get comfortable, and let's start healing together.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Tuesday Aug 13, 2024
Tuesday Aug 13, 2024
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Welcome back to the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast! In this episode, we delve into the importance of knowing your true identity and how it can help you stay focused on your path without getting sidetracked by others' opinions.
We discuss a powerful analogy about how understanding who you are can protect you from hurtful comments and criticism, just like how you wouldn't be offended by someone criticizing your blue hair if you don't have blue hair.
We'll also explore the role of trusted individuals in shaping and affirming your identity, and how listening to the right voices can help you grow and stay true to yourself. Join us for an enlightening conversation on self-awareness, personal growth, and the power of positive self-talk.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Wednesday Aug 07, 2024
Wednesday Aug 07, 2024
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Welcome to the latest episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy! In this final installment of our extensive series on negative beliefs and cognitions, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists, delve deep into the origins and impacts of these detrimental thoughts.
Join us as we explore how negative beliefs like "I'm a failure," "I cannot succeed," "I have to be perfect," and "I cannot stand it" affect our daily lives and relationships. Learn how these beliefs can stem from past traumas and life experiences, and discover practical strategies to uproot them for a healthier, happier you.
If you've ever felt overwhelmed by perfectionism, chronic stress, or the need to please everyone, this episode is for you. Gain insights on how to break free from these negative cycles and start your journey towards healing and personal growth.
Don't miss out on this transformative conversation—listen now to take the first step towards becoming the best version of yourself.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Monday Aug 05, 2024
Monday Aug 05, 2024
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Welcome to another transformative episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast! Join Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists, as they dive deep into the final segment of their series on negative cognitions and beliefs.
This week, Tim and Ruth explore the intricate layers of control and choice, discussing how beliefs such as "I'm not in control," "I am powerless," "I am weak," and "I cannot get what I want" can deeply impact our lives and relationships. They provide insightful examples and practical strategies to help you recognize and address these negative beliefs, paving the way for personal growth and healing.
Don't miss this engaging conversation that will empower you to transform adversity into triumph, heal from past trauma, and build healthier, more fulfilling connections. Tune in and start your journey towards a more empowered you!
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Wednesday Jul 31, 2024
Wednesday Jul 31, 2024
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Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where licensed therapists Tim and Ruth Olson guide you through the complex journey of healing from trauma and fostering healthier relationships. In this episode, they continue their deep dive into the negative beliefs and cognitions often addressed during EMDR therapy.
Tim and Ruth explore a range of negative beliefs related to safety and vulnerability, such as "I cannot protect myself," "I'm in danger," "It is not okay to feel or show my emotions," "I cannot stand up for myself," and "I cannot let it out." They discuss the origins of these beliefs, often rooted in past trauma or adverse experiences, and how they manifest in daily life, causing emotional and physiological distress.
Join them as they provide examples, share personal insights, and offer practical strategies for recognizing and challenging these harmful beliefs. Whether you're on a journey of personal growth or seeking to improve your relationships, this episode is packed with valuable information to help you on your path to healing.
Stay tuned for the next episode, where they'll delve into the final section of this series, focusing on control and choice. Don't miss out on the opportunity to transform adversity into triumph with Mr. and Mrs. Therapy.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Monday Jul 29, 2024
Monday Jul 29, 2024
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Welcome back to the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast! In this episode, we continue our deep dive into the series on negative cognitions and beliefs. We've already explored feelings of responsibility and guilt in previous episodes. Today, we shift our focus to safety and vulnerability, specifically examining the negative beliefs around trust.
Join us as we discuss how environments of constant doubt and scrutiny can lead to the belief that "I cannot be trusted," and explore the implications of this mindset. We then delve into the nuances between "I cannot trust myself," "I cannot trust my judgment," and "I cannot trust anyone," analyzing how each impacts personal growth and relationships.
We'll also touch on how these negative beliefs can manifest in everyday life, causing anxiety, chronic indecision, and even social withdrawal. Whether it's about trusting oneself or others, understanding these subtle differences is crucial for personal development and healing.
Thank you for joining us today. Stay tuned for our next episode, where we'll continue to explore themes of safety and vulnerability, including beliefs like "I cannot protect myself" and "I am in danger." Remember, your mind is a powerful thing.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Wednesday Jul 24, 2024
Wednesday Jul 24, 2024
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In this episode, we continue our insightful series on negative cognitions and beliefs. Today, we delve into the second category under responsibility: "I did something wrong." We explore three core beliefs in this category and discuss their origins and impacts on our lives.
We start with "I should have done something," examining how traumatic events can lead to an overinflated sense of responsibility. Next, we discuss "I did something wrong," where external blame leads to persistent self-blame and low self-worth. Lastly, we cover "I should have known better," which often arises from experiences of betrayal or being scammed.
Join us as we unpack these negative beliefs, understand their roots, and learn how they affect our current lives. Together, we aim to bring awareness and healing, helping you navigate these complex emotions. Stay tuned for our next episode, where we explore beliefs related to safety and vulnerability.
Remember, your mind is a powerful thing!
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Tuesday Jul 23, 2024
Tuesday Jul 23, 2024
Welcome to the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast! In today's episode, we continue our series on negative cognitions and negative beliefs, focusing on the "I Am Something Wrong" category. If you haven't caught the previous episodes, we highly recommend listening to those first.
We'll delve into the beliefs such as "I am stupid," "I'm insignificant," "I'm a disappointment," "I deserve to die," "I deserve to be miserable," and "I am different or I don't belong." Understanding these deeply rooted negative thoughts is crucial, especially if you're considering EMDR therapy, a trauma therapy technique that we find highly effective.
We'll explore how these negative beliefs originate, often from childhood experiences, academic pressures, or toxic relationships, and how they manifest in our adult lives, affecting our self-esteem, decision-making, and overall mental health. Join us as we discuss ways to identify and heal these harmful beliefs to lead a more fulfilling life.
Don't miss our next episode, where we'll tackle the "I Did Something Wrong" category of beliefs. Stay tuned, and remember, your mind is a powerful thing!
**We want to work with YOU!**
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[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}