Mr and Mrs Therapy | EMDR Therapy, Trauma, PTSD, Healing Trauma, Communication, Anxiety, Depression, Relationship
***TOP 1.5% PODCAST*** Is your trauma consuming you? Are you tired of constantly having anxiety or depression? Are you struggling to stop negative self talk? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? Are you fighting about the same things over and over again in your relationship? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? In this podcast, you will find tools and resources to help you better understand yourself and your relationships. You’ll learn how to manage or even eliminate the constant anxiety, negative self talk, and feelings of overwhelm that you’ve been experiencing. Our mission is to equip you to be healthy mentally and relationally and to bring healing to past trauma that might be still affecting you today. If you’re ready to say yes to being the best version of yourself, have fulfilling and healthy relationships, and have a better life, - then you are in the right place! Hey, we’re Tim and Ruth! We’re licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts with over 30 years of combined experience. We’ve seen time and time again how people have tried to will themselves to be happy, muscle through it, and have ended up even worse off than when they began. We’ve noticed that people have experienced deep pain, whether it’s others who have hurt them or situations and the world just beating them down, and often they have turned that into an internal dialogue where they are mean...like really cruel in how they talk to themselves. They have anxiety, feel depressed and overwhelmed, all the while their self talk is telling them ”I’m not good enough, I’m a failure, I’m worthless, I’m not loveable, I cannot trust anyone, I am powerless, I’m not in control.” How emotionally exhausting! We’ve realized that people want to get out of that place, they just don’t know how. They feel lost, alone, and without hope. Mental health & recurring toxic relationships can feel like an uphill battle, but you are not alone in this, that’s where we come in! We offer specific steps, practical tools, strategies, and insights that will help you to overcome these ongoing battles and help you win the war! There is hope, and there certainly is healing! We can’t wait to share it with you! If you are ready to finally find ways to overcome your anxiety, stop your negative self talk, stop feeling like a burden, break free from co-dependency and toxic relationships, and stop letting your past run the show... and if you’re looking for changes that can transform your life, like improved mood, increased confidence, healthier relationships, and healing from the past that has kept you stuck for too long - this podcast is for you! Bring your drama and your trauma and lets get healing! We’d love to connect with you over in our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mrandmrstherapypodcast/
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Thursday Mar 06, 2025
Thursday Mar 06, 2025
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Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy. Join Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts, as they delve deeper into Gottman's seven principles, specifically focusing on overcoming gridlock in relationships. Building on the previous episode's exploration of solvable versus perpetual problems, this discussion provides listeners with practical steps to break free from entrenched conflicts and nurture deeper empathy and understanding.
Tim and Ruth guide you through the process of identifying hidden dreams within conflicts, illustrating how these core values can often be the root of recurring issues. Through the example of a couple grappling with the decision of having a larger family, they highlight the importance of recognizing personal motivations and values. By exploring each other's dreams and fears, couples can transform arguments into opportunities for connection, allowing for meaningful discussions rather than reactive exchanges.
The episode offers strategies for self-soothing and emotional regulation, emphasizing the importance of taking pauses during heated discussions to foster calmer and more constructive dialogues. Tim and Ruth illustrate the significance of validating each other's emotions and encourage listeners to engage in ongoing dialogues rather than seeking one-time solutions.
Listeners are invited to explore temporary compromises and structured conversations to navigate perpetual issues adeptly. The Olsons stress the value of professional help in facilitating these discussions, underscoring that the journey to overcoming relationship gridlocks is about understanding each other's inner world, not just fixing issues superficially.
As the episode concludes, Tim and Ruth provide a preview of the next episode focusing on creating shared meaning, promising more valuable insights. Tune in to transform relationship gridlocks into pathways of growth and deeper connection, and be sure to share your thoughts and experiences in the Facebook group linked in the description.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Monday Mar 03, 2025
Monday Mar 03, 2025
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Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists, delve into the intricacies of overcoming relationship gridlock. In this episode, they focus on the sixth of Gottman's Seven Principles, exploring the concept of gridlock in relationships where fundamental conflicts recur without resolution over months or even years.
The episode begins with a discussion on how unresolved perpetual problems—such as disagreements about wanting children, religious differences, or lifestyle choices—can leave couples feeling entrenched and hopeless. Tim and Ruth engage listeners by sharing insights into the emotional complexities beneath these ongoing conflicts, emphasizing the need for deeper understanding and the importance of addressing not just the surface issues but the underlying dreams, needs, and values.
The hosts guide couples through various pitfalls like ignoring emotions, rushing for quick solutions, and failing to revisit difficult topics leading to blame and resentment. They stress the significance of emotional intimacy alongside conflict resolution and offer practical advice on utilizing check-ins, patience, and empathy to manage differences more peacefully.
Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own relationships, identifying recurring issues and the emotions tied to them. With the promise of more strategies in the next episode, this installment empowers couples to break free from gridlock, fostering meaningful and fulfilling connections.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Thursday Feb 27, 2025
Thursday Feb 27, 2025
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Welcome back to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy with your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts. In this episode, we dive deep into the art of solving solvable problems within relationships by exploring John Gottman’s principles. Picking up from our previous discussion on distinguishing solvable issues from perpetual ones, we guide you through a comprehensive roadmap designed to effectively address and resolve conflict.
The episode begins by emphasizing the importance of a gentle startup when entering difficult conversations, to reduce defensiveness and promote an atmosphere conducive to cooperation. We walk you through seven structured steps, starting from articulating the issue clearly, practicing active listening, to brainstorming and proposing collaborative solutions. Additionally, crucial topics such as finding common ground, compromising, and agreeing on a plan are tackled to help both partners feel respected and understood.
Drawing from real-life scenarios and professional insights, we also discuss overcoming common pitfalls like reverting to old communication patterns, addressing emotional triggers, and dealing with external stressors. This empowers listeners to manage conflicts with empathy and teamwork.
Whether dealing with challenging daily disputes or navigating deeper emotional wounds, this episode provides practical strategies for strengthening your relationship's bond. Tune in for valuable tips and a step-by-step guide to transforming conflict into a catalyst for personal and relational growth.
We encourage you to practice these techniques on a small conflict this week, and share your success stories in our dedicated Facebook group. Join us as we continue to transform life's challenges into opportunities for deeper connections and healing.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Monday Feb 24, 2025
Monday Feb 24, 2025
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Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists, delve into Gottman's fifth principle of "Solving Your Solvable Problems." In this episode, they explore how identifying and managing solvable issues can lead to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
Tim and Ruth begin by reviewing the foundational four principles from Gottman's research: building love maps, nurturing fondness and admiration, turning towards each other, and letting your partner influence you. These steps, they emphasize, are crucial in forming a strong relationship base before tackling problems.
The episode further explains the distinction between solvable and perpetual problems. Solvable issues are situational conflicts such as chores, scheduling, and financial management, which can be addressed with practical solutions. On the other hand, perpetual problems often arise from core personality traits or values and require ongoing management and acceptance.
Listeners are encouraged to distinguish between these two types of problems, focusing their energy on resolving solvable issues to prevent resentment and build confidence within the relationship. Tim and Ruth highlight the importance of protecting emotional bandwidth by managing everyday stressors, allowing couples to be better equipped for tackling deeper, more complex challenges.
In this engaging discussion, Tim and Ruth provide listeners with strategies for identifying their unique solvable and perpetual problems, laying the groundwork for further resolution in upcoming episodes. This episode is essential for anyone looking to enhance their relationship dynamics through effective problem-solving techniques.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Thursday Feb 20, 2025
Thursday Feb 20, 2025
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Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, hosted by Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists. This week, we continue our exploration of John Gottman's landmark book, "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work," with a deep dive into the fourth principle: letting your partner influence you.
In this episode, Tim and Ruth tackle some common obstacles couples face when sharing mutual influence, such as the fear of losing autonomy and the impact of ego and past traumas. They provide constructive strategies to overcome these barriers, emphasizing that influence should be reciprocal and beneficial for both partners.
The discussion offers practical steps for embracing influence, including learning how to listen actively, valuing your partner's expertise, and practicing small tests of openness. With their trademark blend of personal anecdotes and professional insights, Tim and Ruth guide listeners on how maintaining humility and mutual respect can transform challenges into opportunities for deeper connection.
Join the Olsons as they empower you with the skills needed to foster healthier communication and enduring love in your relationship. Tune in for expert advice, engaging dialogue, and strategies that can help turn adversity into triumph in your marriage.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Monday Feb 17, 2025
Monday Feb 17, 2025
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Welcome to another enlightening episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where seasoned therapists Tim and Ruth Olson delve into the intricacies of Gottman’s Seven Principles. In this episode, they focus on the principle of letting your partner influence you. Tim and Ruth explore the transformative power of openness, respect, and collaboration in relationships.
This conversation is all about the importance of being receptive to your partner's ideas and feelings, and how setting aside control and ego can foster mutual respect and intimacy. Drawing from their expertise, they discuss practical strategies for overcoming obstacles in marriages and how embracing each other’s perspectives can lead to personal and relational growth.
The episode highlights key signs of resistance to partner influence, including an "I know best" attitude, stonewalling, dismissiveness, and rigid control. Tim and Ruth share personal anecdotes to illustrate how avoiding these pitfalls and embracing your partner’s influence can reduce power struggles, lower tension, and build resilience in relationships.
As the discussion unfolds, listeners will gain insights into how collaborative efforts in areas like parenting can lead to more effective solutions and foster an environment where both partners feel valued and respected.
Tune in to learn how to navigate these dynamics with humility and grace, as Tim and Ruth prepare to further explore practical ways to implement these strategies in upcoming episodes.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Thursday Feb 13, 2025
Thursday Feb 13, 2025
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Join licensed marriage and family therapists, Tim and Ruth Olson, as they guide you through the nuances of building healthier relationships in this insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy. Building on last week's discussion, the Olsons continue to explore the concept of 'bids for connection' and the importance of turning toward your partner.
Dive deep into the barriers that often prevent partners from connecting, such as technological distractions, chronic stress, and unresolved emotional wounds. The Olsons not only highlight these common obstacles but also provide practical strategies to overcome them. By setting phone-free zones, practicing mindfulness, and engaging in meaningful conversations, listeners will learn effective techniques to embrace connection opportunities.
This episode also features actionable advice for nurturing your bond through active listening, validation, and small acts of kindness. Engage with your partner through shared rituals and regular check-ins, transforming everyday interactions into chances for deeper connection. Whether you're seeking to improve your relationship or simply understand it better, this episode equips you with the tools to turn adversity into triumph and foster lasting love.
Tune in to gain valuable insights from the Olsons and embrace the journey toward healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Monday Feb 10, 2025
Monday Feb 10, 2025
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Hey there, and welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy! In this episode, we're diving deep into the tiny moments that make a massive impact on relationships—those everyday bids for connection. How we engage with the little things, like a shared laugh or a simple favor, can either weave us closer or pull us apart. Let's chat about how turning toward our loved ones transforms our connections into something truly resilient and beautiful. So grab a comfy seat, maybe a cup of coffee, and let's explore the art of building bonds that last. See you in there!
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Thursday Feb 06, 2025
Thursday Feb 06, 2025
In this episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, Tim and Ruth Olson dive deep into the challenges of fostering fondness and admiration in relationships despite obstacles like resentment, stress, and complacency. Drawing insights from Gottman's 7 Principles for Healthy Relationships, they explore how unresolved conflicts can build barriers to appreciation between partners.The Olsons share practical strategies to help couples address these issues, emphasizing the importance of consistent positive actions even when emotions don't align. Through engaging discussions, they highlight how minor conflicts can escalate if not addressed, ultimately leading to deeper resentment.Listeners are invited to implement small daily practices to combat these challenges, such as expressing gratitude and rediscovering their partner's admirable qualities. With the episode's guidance, couples can transform their relationships, reconnect on deeper levels, and nurture a renewed sense of admiration and fondness.
Monday Feb 03, 2025
Monday Feb 03, 2025
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Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast where hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts, guide you in transforming life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. In this insightful episode, Tim and Ruth explore Gottman's second principle: nurturing fondness and admiration, a key to cherishing your partner and celebrating their good qualities.
Discover how couples can deepen their connection and resilience through consistent fondness and admiration, offering a cushion during conflicts and stress. Whether navigating trauma or difficult transitions, these practices help maintain a positive outlook towards your partner's attributes and intentions.
The episode covers practical strategies like daily appreciation moments, creating a fondness and admiration jar, mindful compliments, memory lane conversations, and check-ins. These tactics are designed to reinforce positive interactions, making you and your partner lean into a loving and supportive relationship.
The conversation sets the stage for a deeper dive in the next episode, focusing on overcoming obstacles to fondness and admiration. Tune in and start practicing the art of seeing your partner through a positive lens, making a profound impact on your relationship.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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