Mr and Mrs Therapy | EMDR Therapy, Trauma, PTSD, Healing Trauma, Communication, Anxiety, Depression, Relationship
***TOP 1.5% PODCAST*** Is your trauma consuming you? Are you tired of constantly having anxiety or depression? Are you struggling to stop negative self talk? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? Are you fighting about the same things over and over again in your relationship? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? In this podcast, you will find tools and resources to help you better understand yourself and your relationships. You’ll learn how to manage or even eliminate the constant anxiety, negative self talk, and feelings of overwhelm that you’ve been experiencing. Our mission is to equip you to be healthy mentally and relationally and to bring healing to past trauma that might be still affecting you today. If you’re ready to say yes to being the best version of yourself, have fulfilling and healthy relationships, and have a better life, - then you are in the right place! Hey, we’re Tim and Ruth! We’re licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts with over 30 years of combined experience. We’ve seen time and time again how people have tried to will themselves to be happy, muscle through it, and have ended up even worse off than when they began. We’ve noticed that people have experienced deep pain, whether it’s others who have hurt them or situations and the world just beating them down, and often they have turned that into an internal dialogue where they are mean...like really cruel in how they talk to themselves. They have anxiety, feel depressed and overwhelmed, all the while their self talk is telling them ”I’m not good enough, I’m a failure, I’m worthless, I’m not loveable, I cannot trust anyone, I am powerless, I’m not in control.” How emotionally exhausting! We’ve realized that people want to get out of that place, they just don’t know how. They feel lost, alone, and without hope. Mental health & recurring toxic relationships can feel like an uphill battle, but you are not alone in this, that’s where we come in! We offer specific steps, practical tools, strategies, and insights that will help you to overcome these ongoing battles and help you win the war! There is hope, and there certainly is healing! We can’t wait to share it with you! If you are ready to finally find ways to overcome your anxiety, stop your negative self talk, stop feeling like a burden, break free from co-dependency and toxic relationships, and stop letting your past run the show... and if you’re looking for changes that can transform your life, like improved mood, increased confidence, healthier relationships, and healing from the past that has kept you stuck for too long - this podcast is for you! Bring your drama and your trauma and lets get healing! We’d love to connect with you over in our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mrandmrstherapypodcast/
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Tuesday Dec 13, 2022
Tuesday Dec 13, 2022
We're so glad you're here! Today we sit down with Parenting Coach, Kaile Myers, to talk about connection based parenting and premeditated parenting.
Kaile is a happily married mother of 4 who is passionate about enjoying motherhood and finding FUN in the daily events of life. Kaile addresses the importance of having and protecting the connection you have with your children and parenting in a way that enhances that connection. She addresses the difference between discipline and punishment, and gives examples of how to parent intentionally and proactively. Kaile will also explain what premeditated parenting is and how preparing and planning can help you set you up for success.
Connect with Kaile over at Instagram: @kaile_rae
Related Episode:
Ep. 24 - Connection Based Parenting (Pt. 2)
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Thursday Dec 08, 2022
Thursday Dec 08, 2022
It is so much easier to tell people what we don't like or don't want but it is more difficult and takes more effort to ask people for what we want. To ask for what we want takes more effort, we have to first identify what it is we even want, and then figure out how to explain that to others. The problem with always talking about what we don't like is that it doesn't get us any closer to what it is you DO want. Listen to this episode and this week let's focus on telling people more of what we DO want!
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Tuesday Dec 06, 2022
Tuesday Dec 06, 2022
Is your relationship in danger of failing? Researcher John Gottman is known for his ability to predict the end of a relationship with over 90% accuracy. He was able to identify specific negative communication patterns that predict divorce, which he names The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. 1. Criticism, 2. Contempt, 3. Defensiveness, and 4. Stonewalling.
In this podcast we will explain what these 4 problematic behaviors look like and discuss what to do instead, to avoid the impending DOOM!
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Thursday Dec 01, 2022
Thursday Dec 01, 2022
When you're in conflict what do you do when your conversation goes sideways? PAUSE! In this podcast we discuss how to take a pause and step back and allow your emotions to calm down in the midst of difficult conversations and conflict. No really your brain can't handle it, you need this tool! We discuss the biology of anger and how it affects your brain and why it can make it so difficult for you to manage the conversation when you get upset.
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Tuesday Nov 29, 2022
Tuesday Nov 29, 2022
Often we get into unhealthy cycles that are difficult to change. Are you always chasing your spouse to talk about problems? Or maybe you are the one that is always running away from talking about problems from your spouse? In this podcast we will walk you through the Pursuer Distancer Relationship and how to change it!
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Tuesday Nov 22, 2022
Tuesday Nov 22, 2022
The holidays can be a rough time for many people, for different reasons. In today's podcast we discuss 10 tips that will help you to survive, and thrive as we enter into the holiday season.
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Thursday Nov 17, 2022
Thursday Nov 17, 2022
What we think and what we say has a great influence on the world around you. In this podcast we will discuss 3 different studies that talk about the effect that our beliefs and even our statements have on outcomes.
The first study we talk about is the Blue Eyed vs. Brown Eyed Study. In this experiment a teacher tells her students that the blue eyed students were found to be more intelligent and she gave them exams. The next day she exclaimed that she had made a mistake and it actually was the brown eyed students who were more intelligent and again administered an exam. What the tests showed is that when the students were told they were more intelligent, their performance increased and if they believed they were less intelligent their performance decreased.
The next study we talk about is the Intelligent Vs Hard Working Study. In this experiment groups of kids were told they were intelligent or hard working. The researchers gave the students progressively more difficult tests to take and the students could opt out of the tests whenever they wanted. The students who were told they were more intelligent bowed out of the testing earlier than the students who were told they were hard working. The result are, the students who were told they were smart became fearful of losing their title of "intelligent" and stopped taking the test when they feared they would be found out. The students who were told they were hard workers were much more willing to endure the more difficult tests because they only way they could lose their title was to stop trying.
The final study was in regard to cancer and beliefs about survival. This study follows 3 groups of cancer patients. One group believed they were going to die, the next believed they would live, and the last group believed they would die but told others and themselves that they would survive. The group that believed they would die were statistically more likely to die than the other 2 groups. The other 2 groups, however, had the same survival rate. The people who believed they would die but said they would survive had the same survival rate as the group that believed they would survive.
Your mind is a powerful thing, don't underestimate the importance of mindset.
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Tuesday Nov 15, 2022
Tuesday Nov 15, 2022
We are not trying to hurt your feelings I promise! But we are willing to hurt them to tell you the truth. Your kids should not be the most important relationship in your life. Your spouse should be. The most important thing you can do for your children is to have a solid marriage. By every metric kids perform better when there is a healthy couple in the house that is raising them. Please listen and reshape your priorities for your kids and your marriage!
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Thursday Nov 10, 2022
Thursday Nov 10, 2022
Ok ok ok, so you have been listening and you realize that you need therapy and are ready to jump in...What now!?!?!
"How do I wade through the mire and muck to find a therapist that can help me with what I am looking for?"
Do not despair! In this episode we discuss a few types of therapy models, some questions to ask your prospective therapist, and we give you a few tips that will help you find the right therapist for you!
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Tuesday Nov 08, 2022
Tuesday Nov 08, 2022
If you are struggling to communicate with your spouse and you feel like the difficult conversations frequently go sideways, this is the podcast for you! Listen in as we teach you a practical tool that can help you have conversations that help resolve conflicts rather than just sending you into another conflict cycle.
L = Listen
U = Understand
V = Validate
When Your partner is talking, you will practice L. U. V. on them.
Speaker's responsibility- keep it to one laser focused subject at a time and keep it to 3 min or less.
LUVer's responsibility:
Listen- during this phase of the tool you will do no talking and just be attentive to what Your partner is saying. At this point I don't care if she is telling a lie, doesn't have all of the information, or has wrong information you listen all the way through (you will be able to address your disagreement with what they said later). The person who is doing the talking should be laser focused and only talking about a very narrow point.
Understand-in this phase show Your partner that you know what they are talking about by repeating back in your own words what you believe they was trying to say. If you get it right move to the next phase if it is wrong go back to listening.
Validate- what they said by saying something like "based on what you said it makes sense that you feel/think that way or came to that conclusion". This is not necessarily agreeing it is just letting them know they have a point.
Now it is time to make the switch from you practicing L. U. V. On them to practicing it on you. I like to accomplish this with a question, " may I address some of the things that you said" or something close to that. This allows them to voluntarily give you control of the conversation rather than you trying to take it by force ( interrupting or talking over them). When we voluntarily give up control of the conversation then we are able to truly listen and not be irritated that we got interrupted or continue to think about what we wanted to say rather than what the other person is saying.
If you practice this communication tool and make it part of your everyday conversations, it can greatly benefit you and your relationships.
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