Mr and Mrs Therapy | EMDR Therapy, Trauma, PTSD, Healing Trauma, Communication, Anxiety, Depression, Relationship
***TOP 1.5% PODCAST*** Is your trauma consuming you? Are you tired of constantly having anxiety or depression? Are you struggling to stop negative self talk? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? Are you fighting about the same things over and over again in your relationship? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? In this podcast, you will find tools and resources to help you better understand yourself and your relationships. You’ll learn how to manage or even eliminate the constant anxiety, negative self talk, and feelings of overwhelm that you’ve been experiencing. Our mission is to equip you to be healthy mentally and relationally and to bring healing to past trauma that might be still affecting you today. If you’re ready to say yes to being the best version of yourself, have fulfilling and healthy relationships, and have a better life, - then you are in the right place! Hey, we’re Tim and Ruth! We’re licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts with over 30 years of combined experience. We’ve seen time and time again how people have tried to will themselves to be happy, muscle through it, and have ended up even worse off than when they began. We’ve noticed that people have experienced deep pain, whether it’s others who have hurt them or situations and the world just beating them down, and often they have turned that into an internal dialogue where they are mean...like really cruel in how they talk to themselves. They have anxiety, feel depressed and overwhelmed, all the while their self talk is telling them ”I’m not good enough, I’m a failure, I’m worthless, I’m not loveable, I cannot trust anyone, I am powerless, I’m not in control.” How emotionally exhausting! We’ve realized that people want to get out of that place, they just don’t know how. They feel lost, alone, and without hope. Mental health & recurring toxic relationships can feel like an uphill battle, but you are not alone in this, that’s where we come in! We offer specific steps, practical tools, strategies, and insights that will help you to overcome these ongoing battles and help you win the war! There is hope, and there certainly is healing! We can’t wait to share it with you! If you are ready to finally find ways to overcome your anxiety, stop your negative self talk, stop feeling like a burden, break free from co-dependency and toxic relationships, and stop letting your past run the show... and if you’re looking for changes that can transform your life, like improved mood, increased confidence, healthier relationships, and healing from the past that has kept you stuck for too long - this podcast is for you! Bring your drama and your trauma and lets get healing! We’d love to connect with you over in our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mrandmrstherapypodcast/
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Tuesday Feb 28, 2023
Tuesday Feb 28, 2023
In this 2 part series we will talk about how you might be wasting your time by dating the wrong people and we'll talk about how you can learn to laser focus your time dating to find Mr. or Mrs. Right. In order to keep laser focus you need your list... Your Non-Negotiables List.
Your Non-Negotiables List will help you when you start to catch feelings to BE ABLE TO ASSESS IF THIS PERSON IS WORTH YOUR TIME OR LIKELY TO WASTE YOUR TIME!
Listen here for related episodes mentioned on today's podcast:
Ep. 41 - What is Love Anyway? (Part 1)
Ep. 42 - What is Love Anyway? (Part 2)
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Thursday Feb 23, 2023
Thursday Feb 23, 2023
We all want to have healthy relationships, but what does that even look like? Last episode we discussed Healthy vs. Addictive Love and shared comparisons #1-6, today we complete the list with comparisons #7 - 10!
If you haven't already listened to Part 1 - you can go back and listen to it here: Healthy vs. Addictive Love (Part 1)
Let's get started! 7. Healthy Love creates a deeper sense of ourselves the longer we're together. Addictive love creates a loss of self the longer you are together.
8. Healthy love gets easier as time goes on. Addictive love requires more effort as time goes on.
9. Healthy love is satisfied with the partner we have. Addictive love is always looking for more or someone better.
10. Healthy love teaches that we can only make ourselves happy. Addictive love expects the other person to make us happy and demands we try and make them happy.
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Tuesday Feb 21, 2023
Tuesday Feb 21, 2023
We all want to have healthy relationships, but what does that even look like? Tune in to today's episode as we compare Healthy Love vs. Addictive Love. Today we will cover #1-6
1. Healthy love develops after we feel secure. Addictive love tries to create love and connection before we understand who the person is.
2. Healthy love comes from being healthy ourselves , we overflow with love. Addictive love is always trying to fill an inner void.
3. Healthy love begins with loving ourselves, being the partner we wish to have. Addictive love is avoiding looking at ourselves and always seeks to get love from that "special someone".
4. Healthy love grows slowly overtime, like a tree. It allows us to be vulnerable because we feel secure. Addictive love grows fast, as if by magic, and it's based on a shaky foundation; we don't feel secure and are afraid to be vulnerable because we fear rejection.
5. Healthy love thrives on time alone as well as time spent with our partner. Addictive love avoids being alone and needs to always be together or they begin to feel insecure.
6. Healthy love is gentle and considerate. Addictive love is tense and combative. Join us in the next episode as we complete the list with comparisons #7 - 10!
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Thursday Feb 16, 2023
Thursday Feb 16, 2023
Today we continue with part 2 of "What is Love Anyway? Everyone is searching for it or trying to increase it. But how do you actually define love? We define it as loving actions we take toward our spouse no matter how we feel. We don't define it as an emotion. Come along with us and learn more about what LOVE IS!
"Love is PATIENT and KIND;
Love DOES NOT ENVY or BOAST
It is NOT ARROGANT or RUDE.
It DOES NOT INSIST ON ITS OWN WAY
It is NOT IRRITABLE or RESENTFUL
It DOES NOT REJOICE at WRONGDOING,
but REJOICES with THE TRUTH.
LOVE BEARS ALL THINGS,
BELIEVES ALL THINGS,
HOPES ALL THINGS,
ENDURES ALL THINGS.
LOVE NEVER ENDS."
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Tuesday Feb 14, 2023
Tuesday Feb 14, 2023
What is love? Everyone is searching for it or trying to increase it. But how do you actually define love? We define it as loving actions we take toward our spouse no matter how we feel. We don't define it as an emotion. Come along with us and learn more about what LOVE IS!
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or you can email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com
Thursday Feb 09, 2023
Thursday Feb 09, 2023
We have gotten so many questions about if EMDR is okay for Christians. We've seen the hesitation and worry from those who know they need help but don't know what to do and are hesitant or worried about EMDR. In today's episode we address this concern and help you understand why, not only is it okay, but it may help you discover your true identity in Christ and heal from past hurts or trauma that are stopping you from truly believing and knowing your identity in Christ. We want you to experience fullness, joy and freedom, and we want you to represent Him well.
Related Episodes:
Ep. 6 - Do I have Trauma? Introducing the Basics of Trauma
Ep. 7 - (Pt. 1) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?
Ep. 8 - (Pt. 2) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?
Ep. 9 - (Pt. 3) - What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?
Ep. 32 - Shame, Guilt, & Conviction - Which One Are You Listening To?
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Tuesday Feb 07, 2023
Tuesday Feb 07, 2023
In today's episode we're talking all about the Unconscious Mind.
The Unconscious can influence us in positive or negative ways. What can the Unconscious influence?
1. Our Automatic Behaviors and Habits
2. Our Emotions & Feelings
3. Our Beliefs & Attitudes
What are some ways we can see the negative effects of the Unconscious?
1. Whenever we have an oversized response to the situation at hand.
2. If you have an irrational fear or belief
3. If you have negative experiences or memories that create a negative emotional response for you when you think about it today.
Related Episodes:
Ep. 6 - Do I have Trauma? Introducing the Basics of Trauma
Ep. 7 - (Pt. 1) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?
Ep. 8 - (Pt. 2) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?
Ep. 9 - (Pt. 3) - What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?
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You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Thursday Feb 02, 2023
Thursday Feb 02, 2023
In today's episode we are doing Part 2 of - Don't Drive Your Teen Away! Connecting with your Teens! We have a great time as we interview with Stefanie Bolio, LMFT.
Teens of today face many challenges. Depression, anxiety, loneliness, self-harm, suicide, feeling the weight of helping their friends who struggle with all this and more. In addition to all of that, teens also have the academic and social pressures to do well in school, date, find friends, navigate the pressures of social media, and then there's family. You as their parent can easily drive your teen away....but don't! On this episode, Stefanie will share tips for you to Connect with Your Teen! She'll discuss what to do when your teen may be in crisis. She also shares about what her private practice and working with individuals through EMDR and also working with couples looks like.
Stefanie Bolio has been married for more than 12 years and they have 4 lovely children. Stefanie is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Pennsylvania where she works with individuals, families, couples, and youth. She is also a director for two discrete teen crisis text from youth in crisis 24/7. Stefanie has a passion for walking through difficult situations with people. A main focus of Stefanie's is to provide guidance and healing with a Biblical worldview to achieve a healthier life.
Resources mentioned:
"Raising Great Kids" by Dr. Henry Cloud
"Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children" by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
"Boundaries with Teems: When to Say Yes and How to Say No" by Dr. John Townsend
"How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Adele Faber
"Strong Mothers, Strong Sons" by Meg Meeker
"Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" by Meg Meeker
https://linkingefforts.com/
Listen to Part 1 of this interview with Stefanie:
Ep. 37 - Don't Drive Your Teen Away (Part 1)
Connect with Stefanie>>
Email: stefaniebolio@gmail.com
Stefanie Bolio - EMDR - Psychology Today Profile
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You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Tuesday Jan 31, 2023
Tuesday Jan 31, 2023
Teens of today face many challenges. Depression, anxiety, loneliness, self-harm, feeling the weight of helping their friends who struggle with all this and more. In addition to all of that, teens also have the academic and social pressures to do well in school, date, find friends, navigate the pressures of social media, and then there's family. You as their parent can easily drive your teen away....but don't! On this episode, Stefanie will share tips for you to Connect with Your Teen!
Stefanie Bolio has been married for more than 12 years and they have 4 lovely children. Stefanie is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Pennsylvania where she works with individuals, families, couples, and youth. She is also a director for two discrete teen crisis text from youth in crisis 24/7. Stefanie has a passion for walking through difficult situations with people. A main focus of Stefanie's is to provide guidance and healing with a Biblical worldview to achieve a healthier life.
Resources mentioned:
"Raising Great Kids" by Dr. Henry Cloud
"Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children" by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
"Boundaries with Teems: When to Say Yes and How to Say No" by Dr. John Townsend
"How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Adele Faber
"Strong Mothers, Strong Sons" by Meg Meeker
"Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" by Meg Meeker
https://linkingefforts.com/
Connect with Stefanie>>
Email: stefaniebolio@gmail.com
Stefanie Bolio - EMDR - Psychology Today Profile
We'd love to hear from you!
**Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group
You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Thursday Jan 26, 2023
Thursday Jan 26, 2023
What does it take to be a great leader? Whether you're an executive in a big company or you are at home leading your family, join us in todays episode! In this 2 part series we go through 15 different aspects a good leader should have. Today we will be covering aspects #9-15.
Here are #9-15:
9. Be Empathetic: Show empathy and understanding towards your team.
10. Show Appreciation and gratitude towards your team members. Create a culture of appreciation.
11. Be a Good Role Model: Lead by example & model the behavior and attitudes you expect from your team
12. Empower Others: Whether in the corporate world or in your family, it's important to give your team autonomy, they may surprise you with how well they do.
13. Be Flexible: Be open to change and adapt to new situations,
14. Be Consistent: Be dependable and reliable so your team knows what to expected.
15. Be a Lifelong learner: Continuously improve your skills and knowledge as a leader.
Click Here to Listen to Part 1:
Ep. 35 - Leadership (Part 1) - How To Be A Great Leader so People Will Want To Follow
We'd love to hear from you!
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}