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Ep. 65 - Building Connection By Sharing Your Opinions

Welcome to another thought-provoking episode of the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast with your hosts, Timothy and Ruth! In this episode, we delve into the importance of sharing your opinions with your spouse and how it can significantly improve your connection. We also explore the possible reasons behind withholding opinions, such as trauma and people-pleasing tendencies.
Join us as we discuss the impact of open communication in relationships, share expert insights, and offer practical strategies to overcome barriers and foster a safe space for self-expression. Together, we'll learn how to create stronger bonds with our partners and cultivate healthier relationships built on trust and mutual understanding. Don't miss out on this empowering episode that will inspire you to share your voice and transform your connection with your loved one!
 
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Ep. 64 - (Pt. 2) The Secret Language of Connecting. Can You Interpret Your Partners Bids for Connection?

This is part 2 where we explore the fascinating world of Dr. John Gottman's "Bids for Connection" and how they can strengthen relationships. We give examples of the three types of responses to these bids:
1. Turning Away
2. Turning Against
3. Turning Toward
These examples can help you better to understand how you may be turning away, against, or toward your spouse. Join us as we share insights, practical tips, and real-life examples on how to recognize these bids, respond positively, and create more meaningful connections with your partner. Don't miss out on this essential episode to help you deepen your understanding of your relationship and foster lasting love!
Related Episodes:
Ep. - 63 (Pt. 1) - Bids for Connection
 
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Ep. 63 - The Secret Language of Connecting. Can You Interpret Your Partners Bids for Connection?

Welcome to the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast with your hosts, Tim and Ruth!
In this episode, we explore the fascinating world of Dr. John Gottman's "Bids for Connection" and how they can strengthen relationships. We discuss the three types of responses to these bids: turning toward, turning against, and turning away. Join us as we share insights, practical tips, and real-life examples on how to recognize these bids, respond positively, and create more meaningful connections with your partner. Don't miss out on this essential episode to help you deepen your understanding of your relationship and foster lasting love!
 
Related Episodes: 
Ep. 21 - Avoid These 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse, Which Could Cause Your Relationship To FAIL!!!
Ep. 3 - Love Bank - Making Sure Your Relationship is Filled Up
 
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.  For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988}
 

Ep. 62 - Navigating Trauma and Curbing Its Effects On Your Relationship

In our last episode, we discussed how trauma can impact our interactions with our spouse, making it harder to connect and communicate effectively. But today, we're shifting the focus to the solutions. We'll be discussing the practical tools and techniques that can help us overcome the barriers that trauma creates in relationships.
First, we'll talk about the importance of validating experiences, both our own and our partners'. When we feel heard and understood, it can help us feel more connected and build trust in our relationships.
Next, we'll dive into the benefits of building self-awareness, which can help us better understand our own emotions and reactions, as well as those of our partner.
We'll also explore grounding techniques, which can help us stay present in the moment and manage overwhelming emotions when triggered by past traumas.
Central nervous system compression(hugs) is another technique that can help calm our nervous system and reduce the physical symptoms of anxiety or trauma.
Lastly, we'll discuss EMDR,  to help process traumatic memories  and remove barriers to connecting.
Related Episodes: 
Ep. 61 - Is Trauma Causing Conflict in Your Relationship?
Ep. 6 - Do I have Trauma? Introducing the Basics of Trauma
Ep. 7 - (Pt. 1) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?
Ep. 8 - (Pt. 2) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?
Ep. 9 - (Pt. 3) - What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?
 
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Ep. 61 - Is Trauma Causing Conflict in Your Relationship?

Today, we're tackling a tough topic: trauma and its impact on our relationships with our partners. Trauma can have a profound effect on our thought processes, making us hyper-vigilant, causing us to feel numb, and making us avoid certain situations or people. All of these responses can create barriers to connecting with our spouse and leave us feeling isolated.
But trauma doesn't just affect our thoughts; it can also deepen our emotional reactions, making us more reactive and less able to control our responses. This can lead to conflicts with our partners, as we struggle to communicate our feelings and needs effectively.
On this episode, we'll be exploring the ways in which trauma affects our interactions with our spouse to deepen our understanding of ourselves and partners. 
Related Episodes: 
Ep. 6 - Do I have Trauma? Introducing the Basics of Trauma
Ep. 7 - (Pt. 1) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?
Ep. 8 - (Pt. 2) What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?
Ep. 9 - (Pt. 3) - What is EMDR? Can It Really Heal My Trauma and Improve My Relationships?
 
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Ep. 60 - 4 Communication Don’ts for Healthy Relationships

Don’t say that! Today's podcast is all about not saying things because it throws fuel on the fire. We want to help calm things down by removing these 4 don’ts. First on the list is "Whatever." This seemingly harmless word can actually be a powerful weapon in a marriage, because it communicates a lack of interest and respect for your partner's feelings. Instead of brushing off your spouse's concerns with a dismissive "whatever," try to listen and understand where they're coming from.
Next up is "Shut up." This phrase is a direct attack on your partner's ability to express themselves, and can quickly escalate a disagreement into a full-blown argument. Instead, try to stay calm and communicate your own feelings without resorting to name-calling or insults.
"You're crazy" is another phrase to avoid at all costs. Not only does it invalidate your partner's perspective, it can also make them feel like their emotions are not valid. Instead of dismissing your spouse's feelings as "crazy," try to validate their perspective and work together to find a solution that works for both of you.
Last but not least, "Divorce" is a word that should never be thrown around lightly in a marriage. Even if you're feeling frustrated or overwhelmed, threatening divorce can damage the foundation of trust and commitment that your marriage is built on. Instead, try to work through your issues together and seek counseling or other forms of support if necessary.
Remember, a healthy marriage requires open communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to work through challenges together. By avoiding these damaging phrases and focusing on building a strong foundation of love and trust, you can create a lasting and fulfilling partnership with your spouse.
 
Related episodes mentioned in today's podcast: 
Ep. 50 - Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) - Personality & Relationships
Ep. 34 - Rules for Fighting Fair
Ep. 21 - Avoid These 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse, Which Could Cause Your Relationship to FAIL!
Ep. 19 - Pursuer Distancer Relationship
 
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Ep. 59 - (Pt. 2) Personality and Parenting- Create Healthy Relationships with Your Kids by Connecting With Their Needs

In this 2 part episode of "Kid's Personality Playbook," we explore how understanding your child's MBTI personality type can help you create a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship. From identifying your child's natural strengths and communication style, to tailoring your parenting approach to their unique needs, we share practical tips and strategies to foster a deeper connection with your child. Whether you're a parent, caregiver, or educator, this episode offers valuable insights to help you support and nurture the kids in your life. Tune in now and discover the power of MBTI in parenting!
 
Listen to Related Episodes:
Ep. 58 - Personality & Parenting (Part 1)
Ep. 57 - Judging vs Perceiving (Part 2)
Ep. 56 - Judging vs Perceiving (Part 1)
Ep. 55 - Thinking vs Feeling (Part 2)
Ep. 54 - Thinking vs Feeling (Part 1)
Ep 53 - Sensing vs Intuition
Ep 52 - Introversion vs Extroversion (Part 2)
Ep 51 - Introversion vs Extroversion (Part 1)
Ep. 50 - Myers Briggs Type Indicator, MBTI - Personality and Relationship
 
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You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.  For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

Ep. 58 - (Pt. 1) Personality and Parenting- Create Healthy Relationships with Your Kids by Connecting With Their Needs

In this 2 part episode of "Kid's Personality Playbook," we explore how understanding your child's MBTI personality type can help you create a more fulfilling and harmonious relationship. From identifying your child's natural strengths and communication style, to tailoring your parenting approach to their unique needs, we share practical tips and strategies to foster a deeper connection with your child. Whether you're a parent, caregiver, or educator, this episode offers valuable insights to help you support and nurture the kids in your life. Tune in now and discover the power of MBTI in parenting!
 
Listen to Related Episodes:
Ep. 57 - Judging vs Perceiving (Part 2)
Ep. 56 - Judging vs Perceiving (Part 1)
Ep. 55 - Thinking vs Feeling (Part 2)
Ep. 54 - Thinking vs Feeling (Part 1)
Ep 53 - Sensing vs Intuition
Ep 52 - Introversion vs Extroversion (Part 2)
Ep 51 - Introversion vs Extroversion (Part 1)
Ep. 50 - Myers Briggs Type Indicator, MBTI - Personality and Relationship
 
**We'd love for you to join us over at our Facebook Community! Join us here >>> Facebook Group
You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.  For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
 

Ep. 57 - Judging vs Perceiving - Predictability or Spontaneity What Meets Your Needs! (Part 2)

We're continuing our bigger series - Personality and Relationships
 
Join us today as we continue in our list with Part 2 of Judging vs Perceiving.
Here are 10 differences between the judging (J) and perceiving (P) 
Approach to planning: J types tend to enjoy planning and organizing their lives, while P types tend to prefer more flexible and spontaneous approaches.
Approach to decision-making: J types prefer to make decisions quickly and move on, while P types prefer to keep their options open and explore different possibilities.
Approach to time: J types tend to be punctual and value schedules and deadlines, while P types may be more relaxed about time and may not be as focused on meeting deadlines.
Preference for structure: J types tend to prefer structure and order in their lives, while P types are more comfortable with ambiguity and are open to new experiences.
Focus on details: J types tend to be detail-oriented and focus on the specifics of a situation, while P types may be more inclined to look at the big picture and consider multiple options.
Approach to organization: J types tend to be methodical and focused on completing tasks, while P types may prefer to work on multiple projects simultaneously and may be more adaptable to change.
Reaction to change: J types may be more resistant to change, while P types may be more open to new experiences and willing to adapt to changing circumstances.
Approach to rules: J types tend to be rule followers and may feel uncomfortable with breaking established rules, while P types may be more willing to challenge or bend the rules.
Approach to risk: J types may be more risk-averse and cautious, while P types may be more willing to take risks and explore new possibilities.
Approach to relationships: J types may prefer to have structured relationships with defined roles and expectations, while P types may be more comfortable with open-ended and spontaneous relationships.
 
Listen to Related Episodes:
Ep. 56 - Judging vs Perceiving (Part 1)
Ep. 55 - Thinking vs Feeling (Part 2)
Ep. 54 - Thinking vs Feeling (Part 1)
Ep 53 - Sensing vs Intuition
Ep 52 - Introversion vs Extroversion (Part 2)
Ep 51 - Introversion vs Extroversion (Part 1)
Ep. 50 - Myers Briggs Type Indicator, MBTI - Personality and Relationship
 
**We'd love for you to join us over at our Facebook Community! Join us here >>> Facebook Group
You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.  For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
 

Ep. 56 - Judging vs Perceiving - Predictability or Spontaneity What Meets Your Needs! (Part 1)

Judging Vs Perceiving
 
Here are 10 differences between the judging (J) and perceiving (P) 
Approach to planning: J types tend to enjoy planning and organizing their lives, while P types tend to prefer more flexible and spontaneous approaches.
Approach to decision-making: J types prefer to make decisions quickly and move on, while P types prefer to keep their options open and explore different possibilities.
Approach to time: J types tend to be punctual and value schedules and deadlines, while P types may be more relaxed about time and may not be as focused on meeting deadlines.
Preference for structure: J types tend to prefer structure and order in their lives, while P types are more comfortable with ambiguity and are open to new experiences.
Focus on details: J types tend to be detail-oriented and focus on the specifics of a situation, while P types may be more inclined to look at the big picture and consider multiple options.
Approach to organization: J types tend to be methodical and focused on completing tasks, while P types may prefer to work on multiple projects simultaneously and may be more adaptable to change.
Reaction to change: J types may be more resistant to change, while P types may be more open to new experiences and willing to adapt to changing circumstances.
Approach to rules: J types tend to be rule followers and may feel uncomfortable with breaking established rules, while P types may be more willing to challenge or bend the rules.
Approach to risk: J types may be more risk-averse and cautious, while P types may be more willing to take risks and explore new possibilities.
Approach to relationships: J types may prefer to have structured relationships with defined roles and expectations, while P types may be more comfortable with open-ended and spontaneous relationships.
 
Listen to Related Episodes:
Ep. 55 - Thinking vs Feeling (Part 2)
Ep. 54 - Thinking vs Feeling (Part 1)
Ep 53 - Sensing vs Intuition
Ep 52 - Introversion vs Extroversion (Part 2)
Ep 51 - Introversion vs Extroversion (Part 1)
Ep. 50 - Myers Briggs Type Indicator, MBTI - Personality and Relationships
 
**We'd love for you to join us over at our Facebook Community! Join us here >>> Facebook Group
You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.  For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}