Mr and Mrs Therapy | EMDR Therapy, Trauma, PTSD, Healing Trauma, Communication, Anxiety, Depression, Relationship
***TOP 1.5% PODCAST*** Is your trauma consuming you? Are you tired of constantly having anxiety or depression? Are you struggling to stop negative self talk? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? Are you fighting about the same things over and over again in your relationship? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? In this podcast, you will find tools and resources to help you better understand yourself and your relationships. You’ll learn how to manage or even eliminate the constant anxiety, negative self talk, and feelings of overwhelm that you’ve been experiencing. Our mission is to equip you to be healthy mentally and relationally and to bring healing to past trauma that might be still affecting you today. If you’re ready to say yes to being the best version of yourself, have fulfilling and healthy relationships, and have a better life, - then you are in the right place! Hey, we’re Tim and Ruth! We’re licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts with over 30 years of combined experience. We’ve seen time and time again how people have tried to will themselves to be happy, muscle through it, and have ended up even worse off than when they began. We’ve noticed that people have experienced deep pain, whether it’s others who have hurt them or situations and the world just beating them down, and often they have turned that into an internal dialogue where they are mean...like really cruel in how they talk to themselves. They have anxiety, feel depressed and overwhelmed, all the while their self talk is telling them ”I’m not good enough, I’m a failure, I’m worthless, I’m not loveable, I cannot trust anyone, I am powerless, I’m not in control.” How emotionally exhausting! We’ve realized that people want to get out of that place, they just don’t know how. They feel lost, alone, and without hope. Mental health & recurring toxic relationships can feel like an uphill battle, but you are not alone in this, that’s where we come in! We offer specific steps, practical tools, strategies, and insights that will help you to overcome these ongoing battles and help you win the war! There is hope, and there certainly is healing! We can’t wait to share it with you! If you are ready to finally find ways to overcome your anxiety, stop your negative self talk, stop feeling like a burden, break free from co-dependency and toxic relationships, and stop letting your past run the show... and if you’re looking for changes that can transform your life, like improved mood, increased confidence, healthier relationships, and healing from the past that has kept you stuck for too long - this podcast is for you! Bring your drama and your trauma and lets get healing! We’d love to connect with you over in our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mrandmrstherapypodcast/
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Thursday Feb 02, 2023
Thursday Feb 02, 2023
In today's episode we are doing Part 2 of - Don't Drive Your Teen Away! Connecting with your Teens! We have a great time as we interview with Stefanie Bolio, LMFT.
Teens of today face many challenges. Depression, anxiety, loneliness, self-harm, suicide, feeling the weight of helping their friends who struggle with all this and more. In addition to all of that, teens also have the academic and social pressures to do well in school, date, find friends, navigate the pressures of social media, and then there's family. You as their parent can easily drive your teen away....but don't! On this episode, Stefanie will share tips for you to Connect with Your Teen! She'll discuss what to do when your teen may be in crisis. She also shares about what her private practice and working with individuals through EMDR and also working with couples looks like.
Stefanie Bolio has been married for more than 12 years and they have 4 lovely children. Stefanie is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Pennsylvania where she works with individuals, families, couples, and youth. She is also a director for two discrete teen crisis text from youth in crisis 24/7. Stefanie has a passion for walking through difficult situations with people. A main focus of Stefanie's is to provide guidance and healing with a Biblical worldview to achieve a healthier life.
Resources mentioned:
"Raising Great Kids" by Dr. Henry Cloud
"Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children" by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
"Boundaries with Teems: When to Say Yes and How to Say No" by Dr. John Townsend
"How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Adele Faber
"Strong Mothers, Strong Sons" by Meg Meeker
"Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" by Meg Meeker
https://linkingefforts.com/
Listen to Part 1 of this interview with Stefanie:
Ep. 37 - Don't Drive Your Teen Away (Part 1)
Connect with Stefanie>>
Email: stefaniebolio@gmail.com
Stefanie Bolio - EMDR - Psychology Today Profile
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Tuesday Jan 31, 2023
Tuesday Jan 31, 2023
Teens of today face many challenges. Depression, anxiety, loneliness, self-harm, feeling the weight of helping their friends who struggle with all this and more. In addition to all of that, teens also have the academic and social pressures to do well in school, date, find friends, navigate the pressures of social media, and then there's family. You as their parent can easily drive your teen away....but don't! On this episode, Stefanie will share tips for you to Connect with Your Teen!
Stefanie Bolio has been married for more than 12 years and they have 4 lovely children. Stefanie is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She has a private practice in Pennsylvania where she works with individuals, families, couples, and youth. She is also a director for two discrete teen crisis text from youth in crisis 24/7. Stefanie has a passion for walking through difficult situations with people. A main focus of Stefanie's is to provide guidance and healing with a Biblical worldview to achieve a healthier life.
Resources mentioned:
"Raising Great Kids" by Dr. Henry Cloud
"Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children" by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
"Boundaries with Teems: When to Say Yes and How to Say No" by Dr. John Townsend
"How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk" by Adele Faber
"Strong Mothers, Strong Sons" by Meg Meeker
"Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" by Meg Meeker
https://linkingefforts.com/
Connect with Stefanie>>
Email: stefaniebolio@gmail.com
Stefanie Bolio - EMDR - Psychology Today Profile
We'd love to hear from you!
**Join us over at our Facebook Community here >>> Facebook Group
You can also email us at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com
{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Thursday Jan 26, 2023
Thursday Jan 26, 2023
What does it take to be a great leader? Whether you're an executive in a big company or you are at home leading your family, join us in todays episode! In this 2 part series we go through 15 different aspects a good leader should have. Today we will be covering aspects #9-15.
Here are #9-15:
9. Be Empathetic: Show empathy and understanding towards your team.
10. Show Appreciation and gratitude towards your team members. Create a culture of appreciation.
11. Be a Good Role Model: Lead by example & model the behavior and attitudes you expect from your team
12. Empower Others: Whether in the corporate world or in your family, it's important to give your team autonomy, they may surprise you with how well they do.
13. Be Flexible: Be open to change and adapt to new situations,
14. Be Consistent: Be dependable and reliable so your team knows what to expected.
15. Be a Lifelong learner: Continuously improve your skills and knowledge as a leader.
Click Here to Listen to Part 1:
Ep. 35 - Leadership (Part 1) - How To Be A Great Leader so People Will Want To Follow
We'd love to hear from you!
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Tuesday Jan 24, 2023
Tuesday Jan 24, 2023
What does it take to be a great leader? Whether you're an executive in a big company or you are at home leading your family, join us in todays episode! In this 2 part series we go through 15 different aspects a good leader should have. Today will be aspects 1-8.
Develop self-awareness & use emotional intelligence. Understand your own strengths, weaknesses, values, and emotions, and how they impact your leadership style. Be aware of the emotions of others.
Build trust: Earn the trust of your team members by being honest, transparent, and consistent in your actions.
Show respect: Treat all team members with respect and dignity, and actively work to create a culture of respect within your team.
Communicate effectively: Clearly and effectively communicate your vision, goals, and expectations to your team.
Be authentic: Be true to yourself and your values, and be genuine in your interactions with your team.
Be positive: Maintain a positive attitude and outlook, and encourage positivity in your team.
Be confident: Show confidence in your abilities and decisions, but also be open to feedback and willing to admit mistakes.
Be open to feedback & be a good listener: listen actively and attentively to the ideas and concerns of your team.
We'd love to hear from you!
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Thursday Jan 19, 2023
Thursday Jan 19, 2023
Not all is fair in love an war! That is why we have a list of 15 rules for fighting fair.
1. Ask yourself why you are upset before you start talking
2. Physical violence is not aloud!
3. No degrading language
4. No yelling
5. No emotional blackmail
6. No bringing up the past
7. Stay away from overgeneralizations
8. Don't make assumptions
9. Take turns talking
10. Discuss one issue at a time
11. Express your feelings
12. No stonewalling
13. Take a time-out if things get rough
14. Be accepting
15. Attempt to come to a compromise or understanding
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Tuesday Jan 17, 2023
Tuesday Jan 17, 2023
Is therapy just hoping to get marginally better or make life manageable or does it have the capacity to truly heal your emotional wounds? In this podcast we discuss what therapy can actually accomplish!
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Thursday Jan 12, 2023
Thursday Jan 12, 2023
Shame is a powerful motivator...to hide what you are doing. There are 3 concepts that have to due with altering behaviors. One is shame, which is social pressure that causes you to feel bad about your behavior. Shame is the least effective way to change behaviors because the person does not believe what they did was wrong but feel embarrassed about how society views them. Guilt is a better motivator for change than shame because guilt means you know you did wrong and have a negative emotional response to your own behavior. Guilt is better than shame because it is an internal belief. But what happens when the feelings ware off? People are likely to go back to the bad behaviors. Conviction is the understanding that a behavior is bad and you avoid doing it not because of emotions but because you just believe that behavior is wrong. Conviction is the best response to changing behaviors because it was not motivated by emotions and is therefore more likely to be a long lasting change because emotions often wear off, but the belief and choice through conviction does not.
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Tuesday Jan 10, 2023
Tuesday Jan 10, 2023
Today we address the topic of Self Care.
Sometimes people can feel like taking care of yourself is selfish but when you have done a good job of meeting your own needs it allows you to be joyful when you are being selfless and helping others.
15 tips to help you practice better Self Care:
1. Practice Mindfulness
2. Take Breaks
3. Regular Physical Exercise
4. Get Enough Sleep
5. Eating Healthy
6. Practice Gratitude
7. Connecting With Others (even you introverts!)
8. Take Up a Hobby or Something You Enjoy
9. Set Boundaries
10. Seek Professional Help
11. Practice Relaxation Techniques
12. Get Organized
13. Do Something Nice for Yourself
14. Seek Out New Experiences
15. Use Healthy Coping Skills
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}
Thursday Jan 05, 2023
Thursday Jan 05, 2023
Have you heard of the Pareto Principle? Maybe not, but it's likely that you've heard of the 80/20 rule. This is a key concept that can help us to be more productive, more successful, and can even impact how we approach our relationships.
The 80/20 rule is the principle that 80% of your outcomes come from 20% of your inputs and 20% of your outcomes are coming from 80% of your inputs. Why is this important? If you can figure out what 20% is responsible for the 80% of outcomes, you can focus in on those inputs and really maximize your efforts. This principle can be observed all around you!
Today we will discuss different examples of the Pareto Principle and how it can help you to reach the outcomes you've been desiring.
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Tuesday Jan 03, 2023
Tuesday Jan 03, 2023
Today, January 3, 2023 is Divorce Day. What is Divorce Day? It's the first working Monday of January and it's a day when lawyers see an uptick in cases of those who are filing for divorce. Many people hang on throughout the holidays and don't want to break it to their kids and ruin the holidays, and the stressors of the get togethers and pretending everything is okay in front of family finally all comes to a breaking point.
We are not here to celebrate Divorce Day, instead, we are doing this episode to bring awareness to the surge of divorces filed and encourage you to get the help you need to avoid this day altogether. Marriage is hard, sometimes it feels like there's no coming back from the dark place you're in, but there is hope! Fight for your marriage, it is not always easy, but let us tell you....it is always worth it!
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{Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For additional and personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}