Mr and Mrs Therapy | EMDR Therapy, Trauma, PTSD, Healing Trauma, Communication, Anxiety, Depression, Relationship
***TOP 1.5% PODCAST*** Is your trauma consuming you? Are you tired of constantly having anxiety or depression? Are you struggling to stop negative self talk? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? Are you fighting about the same things over and over again in your relationship? Do you have past hurts that still haunts you? In this podcast, you will find tools and resources to help you better understand yourself and your relationships. You’ll learn how to manage or even eliminate the constant anxiety, negative self talk, and feelings of overwhelm that you’ve been experiencing. Our mission is to equip you to be healthy mentally and relationally and to bring healing to past trauma that might be still affecting you today. If you’re ready to say yes to being the best version of yourself, have fulfilling and healthy relationships, and have a better life, - then you are in the right place! Hey, we’re Tim and Ruth! We’re licensed marriage and family therapists and trauma experts with over 30 years of combined experience. We’ve seen time and time again how people have tried to will themselves to be happy, muscle through it, and have ended up even worse off than when they began. We’ve noticed that people have experienced deep pain, whether it’s others who have hurt them or situations and the world just beating them down, and often they have turned that into an internal dialogue where they are mean...like really cruel in how they talk to themselves. They have anxiety, feel depressed and overwhelmed, all the while their self talk is telling them ”I’m not good enough, I’m a failure, I’m worthless, I’m not loveable, I cannot trust anyone, I am powerless, I’m not in control.” How emotionally exhausting! We’ve realized that people want to get out of that place, they just don’t know how. They feel lost, alone, and without hope. Mental health & recurring toxic relationships can feel like an uphill battle, but you are not alone in this, that’s where we come in! We offer specific steps, practical tools, strategies, and insights that will help you to overcome these ongoing battles and help you win the war! There is hope, and there certainly is healing! We can’t wait to share it with you! If you are ready to finally find ways to overcome your anxiety, stop your negative self talk, stop feeling like a burden, break free from co-dependency and toxic relationships, and stop letting your past run the show... and if you’re looking for changes that can transform your life, like improved mood, increased confidence, healthier relationships, and healing from the past that has kept you stuck for too long - this podcast is for you! Bring your drama and your trauma and lets get healing! We’d love to connect with you over in our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mrandmrstherapypodcast/
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22 hours ago
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Welcome back to another enlightening episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where licensed marriage and family therapists Tim and Ruth Olson dive deep into an often-overlooked psychological concept: the fear of success. This intriguing episode picks up where the previous discussions on fear left off, focusing on how the fear of success can hold you back from achieving your dreams and transforming your life.
In this episode, Tim and Ruth explore the underlying causes of the fear of success, delving into how the potential consequences of growth, increased responsibilities, and changes in interpersonal dynamics can become intimidating obstacles. They discuss the concept of 'upper limiting,' where the mind resists change to maintain comfort, even at the expense of success and improvement.
The episode also examines cultural influences, personal experiences, and the paradox of humility, shedding light on why many people shy away from achieving their full potential. Tim and Ruth share personal stories, including their own experiences with fear of success and its impact on their professional and personal lives.
Listeners will gain insights into how fear of success can manifest as perfectionism, procrastination, and even relationship sabotage, along with practical tips to identify and overcome these barriers. Throughout the episode, Tim and Ruth encourage listeners to reflect on their past experiences and cultural messages about success, urging them to embrace their potential without fear.
Join the conversation and community as Tim and Ruth invite listeners to share their stories and continue the dialogue on their Facebook group. Don't miss next week's episode, where they'll provide actionable steps to conquer the fear of success and step confidently into your purpose. Remember, there's hope and healing in every journey, and your mind is a powerful thing.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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7 days ago
7 days ago
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Welcome to an engaging episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists, dive into the heart of overcoming the fear of failure. In this continuation of their insightful series, Tim and Ruth provide invaluable guidance and therapeutic wisdom as they introduce five practical steps to help you conquer your fear.
Throughout the episode, they explore the importance of naming your specific fears and understanding the unrealistic nature of the worst-case scenarios you might envision. Listeners are encouraged to rewrite their narratives and respond to their fears with truth and compassion, fostering a healthier mental state. With actionable advice, they discuss the benefits of starting with safe experiments and highlight the power of celebrating efforts rather than just outcomes. The episode emphasizes leading with identity and values, offering a fresh perspective on personal growth.
Join Tim and Ruth as they share touching examples from their therapeutic practice and personal experiences, including stories from raising their own children. Whether you’re eager to transform fear into courage or seeking to better understand and refine your personal identity, this episode offers a path toward embracing bravery and creating meaningful change. Plus, discover how you can work directly with Tim and Ruth through personal coaching to further your journey in overcoming fear. Don’t miss this compelling offering from Mr. and Mrs. Therapy and take the next steps in your journey to a fear-free life.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Monday Apr 14, 2025
Monday Apr 14, 2025
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Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, a podcast designed to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. In this week's episode, hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, both licensed marriage and family therapists with expertise in trauma, delve into the complex fear of failure that influences self-worth and relationships.
Join the Olsons as they kick off a compelling two-part series that seeks to uncover the roots of this pervasive fear. In part one, they explore its multiple origins: childhood experiences, internal and external messages, perfectionism, shame, and emotional memories stemming from trauma. Real-life examples and psychological insights illustrate how these factors collectively shape our perception of failure.
Drawing from personal stories and therapeutic practices, the episode provides listeners with a profound understanding of how fear of failure can unknowingly dictate life choices. It challenges listeners to reflect on their upbringing, perfectionism tendencies, and past traumas, encouraging a deeper self-awareness.
Prepare to embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing, as Tim and Ruth share strategies to alleviate the burden of fear and inspire change. Stay tuned for the next episode, where they will provide actionable steps to confront and overcome these fears, empowering you to take risks and embrace growth.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Friday Apr 11, 2025
Friday Apr 11, 2025
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Welcome to another episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, seasoned marriage and family therapists with expertise in trauma, explore the vital steps for healing and growth. In this enlightening episode, the focus is on breaking destructive generational cycles while maintaining family bonds.
Tim and Ruth delve into the sensitive topic by revisiting how listeners can identify harmful patterns in their family of origin, emphasizing not only recognizing negative traits but also appreciating positive aspects that contributed to personal development. They discuss the importance of naming these patterns as the first step towards change.
The hosts guide listeners through the emotional process of grieving unmet needs from their past, highlighting how vital it is to confront feelings of loss without blame. They stress that acknowledging these feelings is key to personal healing and breaking the chain of transmitted trauma.
Drawing from their extensive therapeutic background, Tim and Ruth share the significance of setting healthy boundaries without alienating loved ones. They provide practical advice on how to communicate these boundaries effectively, ensuring that family dynamics improve without disrupting existing relationships.
Listeners are introduced to the concept of reparenting themselves—a transformative process of nurturing one's needs that were not met in childhood. Tim and Ruth discuss the profound impact this can have on one's mental health and overall well-being.
Finally, the episode culminates with the critical step of deciding what values and behaviors to pass onto future generations. Through engaging storytelling and expert insights, the Olsons illustrate how listeners can choose positivity and empathy over fear and shame, thereby fostering an environment of growth and resilience within their families.
Join the conversation in the Facebook group linked below and discover how you can transform adversity into opportunity. This episode promises to inspire and equip listeners with the tools to heal their present and shape a brighter future. Remember, your mind is a powerful thing, and with conscious action, you can create lasting positive change.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Tuesday Apr 08, 2025
Tuesday Apr 08, 2025
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In this insightful episode of "Mr. and Mrs. Therapy," hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, both experienced marriage and family therapists, delve into the complex topic of generational cycles. These patterns, ingrained in our emotional, behavioral, and relational lives, often stretch back over generations, subtly shaping our actions, relationships, and parenting.
The Olsons emphasize that while many of these cycles can encompass positive traits like a strong work ethic and deep family loyalty, others may involve harmful behaviors including emotional repression, codependency, addiction, and controlling tendencies. Rather than placing blame, the episode encourages listeners to understand and assess what they've inherited, enabling them to consciously choose which patterns to keep, which to modify, and which to release altogether.
Throughout the episode, Tim and Ruth explore various common categories, including emotional expression, conflict resolution, communication styles, parenting, boundaries, mental health, addiction, and expressions of love and affection. They provide listeners with insightful reflection questions to identify these patterns in their lives, encouraging a deeper understanding of their family histories.
The Olsons also discuss the impact of trauma on generational cycles and how unprocessed trauma can reinforce these patterns. They offer guidance on how to start the journey of healing and transformation, highlighting the importance of compassion and understanding toward oneself during this process.
Listeners are encouraged to take actionable steps towards breaking or reshaping these cycles, with the promise of writing a new, positive legacy for future generations. Join the Olsons as they guide you through this transformative journey, promising insight, hope, and practical strategies to foster healing and healthier relationships.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Wednesday Apr 02, 2025
Wednesday Apr 02, 2025
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Welcome to the latest episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, hosted by experienced therapists Tim and Ruth Olson. In this episode, we delve into the challenge many couples face: maintaining intimacy during and after busy seasons of life. Drawing on their extensive expertise in marriage, family therapy, and trauma, the Olsons offer practical advice on rekindling connection and deepening bonds.
The episode breaks down five essential steps to help you and your partner reconnect emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It begins with the importance of approaching your partner with curiosity instead of criticism, fostering a healthier environment for open communication. Next, it emphasizes the value of establishing a 15-minute daily connection ritual to maintain consistency even amidst chaos.
Tim and Ruth also share insights into rebuilding physical touch intentionally, addressing the awkwardness that can arise after emotional distance. Additionally, they discuss the significance of planning a connection reset, whether through a weekend getaway or a no-phone date night at home, to pause the busyness and focus on each other.
To conclude, the Olsons encourage intentional use of your partner's love language to foster deeper emotional connections. Each segment is filled with relatable anecdotes and actionable steps that make the journey towards rekindling intimacy hopeful and achievable. Join the Olsons as they guide you through these strategies to create enduring love and meaningful connections.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Monday Mar 31, 2025
Monday Mar 31, 2025
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Welcome to the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast, hosted by licensed marriage and family therapists, Tim and Ruth Olson. This week, we tackle an issue that quietly threatens marriages across busy households: the erosion of intimacy amidst a flurry of obligations. Dive into an in-depth discussion on how life's busy seasons, filled with kids' activities, work, and errands, can create emotional disconnection, build resentment, and dampen physical intimacy.
In this insightful episode, we explore the subtle ways busyness creeps into marital unity, often unnoticed, leading couples to become no more than ships passing in the night. We discuss the pitfalls of transactional conversations and the dangers of neglecting emotional check-ins, showing how these patterns can sap the vibrancy out of intimate relationships.
With practical advice and real-world examples, Tim and Ruth guide listeners in recognizing signs of emotional detachment, such as prioritizing urgent tasks over important relational connections. They offer valuable insights on shifting dynamics, like managing the mental load and addressing resentment that arises from an uneven distribution of responsibilities.
Listeners will also learn the impact of declining physical closeness and gain strategies to maintain simple yet essential gestures of affection amidst chaos. Tune in to discover how busy couples can avoid the trap of becoming mere roommates and instead nurture enduring love.
Stay tuned for our next episode where we will discuss actionable steps to reignite intimacy, ensuring that busy seasons enrich rather than detract from your relationship. Don't forget to share your thoughts and join our community via the Facebook group linked below the episode!
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Thursday Mar 27, 2025
Thursday Mar 27, 2025
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Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where licensed therapists Tim and Ruth Olson guide you through the complexities of healing from trauma and fostering healthy relationships. In this episode, the focus is on reclaiming faith through the powerful trauma therapy known as EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). Building upon their previous discussion on religious trauma, the Olsons delve deeper into how EMDR can facilitate healing by separating negative religious experiences from one’s relationship with God.
Understand how EMDR works by helping the brain to reprocess and release painful memories and beliefs such as feeling unlovable unless perfect, or fearing divine punishment for not following every rule. The discussion touches on how childhood experiences or sermons engrained negative beliefs that affect one's interactions not only with God but also with other people. As these beliefs are addressed and reprocessed, they lose their grip, leading to more positive interactions and a healthier spiritual life.
Drawing from real-life examples and client experiences, Tim and Ruth explain how EMDR is not about altering faith but about removing emotional barriers that hinder spiritual growth. Discover the transformative moments when clients report feeling God’s presence during EMDR sessions, experiencing newfound connections and insights related to their spiritual journeys.
The episode also addresses common concerns from Christian individuals regarding EMDR, clarifying misconceptions and explaining its compatibility with Christian beliefs. Whether you're dealing with religious trauma or general trauma, learn how EMDR could help in restoring peace, embracing grace, and distinguishing between fallible human actions and divine love.
Join the Olsons as they explore key mental shifts facilitated by EMDR, such as redefining God’s character from a punisher to a protector, and replacing the need for perfection with an understanding of divine grace. Episode highlights include practical exercises, like reframing, which can aid healing, alongside the assurance that EMDR therapy can be a holy work towards renewing one’s spiritual life.
So, if feelings of fear and anxiety dominate your faith journey, this episode provides informational insights into how EMDR can help you dismantle those barriers. Stay tuned to learn about the options available for starting your own EMDR therapy journey.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Tuesday Mar 25, 2025
Tuesday Mar 25, 2025
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Welcome to the latest episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, delve into the sensitive and often overlooked topic of religious trauma. In this enlightening discussion, the Olsons, who are licensed marriage and family therapists with expertise in trauma and mental health, share their professional insights and personal experiences related to the impact of religious environments that harm rather than heal.
The episode begins by defining religious trauma and identifying sources such as fear-based teachings, legalism, and experiences of abuse or manipulation within the church. Tim and Ruth emphasize the importance of differentiating between flawed human behavior and the essence of divine teachings, encouraging listeners not to judge God by the actions of individuals within the church community.
As the conversation progresses, they explore how unresolved religious trauma can manifest in feelings of chronic guilt, anxiety, and difficulty trusting spiritual leaders. The hosts offer practical strategies for reframing negative beliefs and perceptions about God and the church, helping individuals bridge the gap between intellectual understanding and emotional experience through methods like EMDR therapy.
Tim and Ruth candidly share personal anecdotes of both positive and negative experiences within the church, highlighting that while human imperfection can lead to hurt and trauma, there is also potential for profound healing and growth. They stress the importance of anchoring one's faith in personal experience rather than the flawed actions of others, and they remind listeners of the importance of seeking professional help as needed.
Tune in to learn valuable strategies for turning pain into an opportunity for deeper connection and healing, and join them for the next episode where they will further explore EMDR therapy's role in recovering from religious trauma. Remember, as the Olsons say, your mind is a powerful thing, and with guidance, hope, and help are within reach.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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Thursday Mar 20, 2025
Thursday Mar 20, 2025
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Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that empowers you to transform life’s challenges into opportunities for personal growth and developing healthier relationships. Join your hosts, Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists with expertise in trauma and mental health disorders, as they guide you through healing from past traumas and building meaningful connections.
In this engaging episode, we continue our mini-series by addressing the topic of people-pleasing and providing practical steps to break free from it. Distinguishing between the joy of genuinely pleasing others and the compulsion of people-pleasing, the Olsons delve into the detrimental impact excessive people-pleasing can have on mental health and personal identity.
Explore four essential steps to overcome the habit of people-pleasing: Recognize your patterns, set healthy boundaries, manage guilt and fear of disapproval, and practice saying no without over-explaining. Through these actionable strategies, you’ll learn how to prioritize your own needs, honor your boundaries, and foster authentic relationships.
Alongside insightful discussions, the Olsons invite you to reflect on your personal tendencies, encouraging a journey towards self-awareness and emotional independence. Discover how setting boundaries not only strengthens your self-respect but also nurtures more genuine and fulfilling connections. Whether it’s facing the fear of disappointing others or learning to assert your needs, this episode offers valuable insights for anyone looking to shift from people-pleasing to empowerment.
Tune in today to start your journey towards freedom, happiness, and healthier relationships.
[Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]
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